This is my 2nd time giving another chance to a man who had a hospital emergency within 15 minutes of the date YET AGAIN. I hope more ladies read these posts and post blacklists as well all over USA because I really would have liked to have been spared standing here all ready once again all thanks to the same man. 3 hours out of my day getting ready for NOTHING! Even confirming today in the evening with an okay as well since last time was the same. Screw it all.
Check the blacklistings. I'm very upset from this same situation once again as of now
I get no respect!
Jokes aside, correct a mundo on the Blacklist. He should have just cash withdrawn from his cc, handed over $ and saved his reputation.
Lesson: Shit does come up (of course), but in the hobby, there are no coincidences. 'Esplanin' doesn't help. Cash do.
similar situation happened to me last week. Set up appt. week in advance, several emails back and forth. She had my #, was supposed to meet at hotel (on my dime BTW).
Left work early, got on highway, left 3 voicemails. NEVER heard from her again!!!!!!
Did not respond to any of the emails I sent to her after as well.
Where is our Blacklist? Effing with someone's time is right up there with ripping them off. In some ways its worse at least the thief shows up!!!!!!
RT
3rd escort this year? lol 
As annoying as RT's posts can be, this one I have to completely agree with. I got NCNS's by a lady who had reviews on here, not a lot but a few of them. She confirmed by text as I was leaving for the 1 hour drive to her place. Made the trip, parked, called her again. Nothing. Called again, and again, and again. Left a VM bitching her out and left. And TER wont even let me post a review warning others about it. Bullshit. I should be able to charge her $150 for the parking, gas, and 3 hours of time I wasted.
Left work early, got on highway, left 3 voicemails. NEVER heard from her again!!!!!!
Did not respond to any of the emails I sent to her after as well.
Where is our Blacklist? Effing with someone's time is right up there with ripping them off. In some ways its worse at least the thief shows up!!!!!!
RT
You can still put up a warning post on your local board warning guys about her.
But some% of clients, in any segment of business, will no-show after making an appt. Shit happens. It’s definitely rude and inconsiderate. But, pretty much a part of business life---pick any business.
If I no show for….say… a DR apt….. I’m very likely going to be charged a fee for the inconvenience. If the Dr office doesn’t have any way to auto-charge me a fee (CC/Debit card on file), or, have an address on file to send me a bill, if I try to reschedule an apt I’ll be charged for the last no-show before I’m allowed to schedule another apt. Seems fair.
The nominal fee doesn’t make up for my rude an inconsiderate behavior. OTOH, me missing an appt hardly seems worthy of getting put on a “blacklist” that might prevent me from ever making a DR apt again---with any Dr. That’s a little over the top.
Aren’t blacklists supposed to be a place to advertise clients who are actually dangerous in some way?
Check the blacklistings. I'm very upset from this same situation once again as of now.
Nope. Blacklists include time wasters, NCNS too. I for one, wouldn't want to book a date with someone blacklisted for NCNS. Chances are they'll do it again, especially if they got away with it. It's not just about the danger element...
I get it's not the same as not being seen again by a doctor, but the doctor likely has over a dozen patients that day and works off of a salary, and does have a card on file to charge an auto-cancel fee. When guys NCNS we are not only out the appointment money, we've lost money on a hotel room, etc., and getting a cancel fee is like pulling teeth. In our business it absolutely does make sense to blacklist time wasters. Think if I booked my entire day on guys that are habitual NCNS, but I didn't know because they weren't blacklisted. Now I'm out a whole day's work plus expenses. Totally fucked, and not in the way I'd anticipated ; )
If I no show for….say… a DR apt….. I’m very likely going to be charged a fee for the inconvenience. If the Dr office doesn’t have any way to auto-charge me a fee (CC/Debit card on file), or, have an address on file to send me a bill, if I try to reschedule an apt I’ll be charged for the last no-show before I’m allowed to schedule another apt. Seems fair.
The nominal fee doesn’t make up for my rude an inconsiderate behavior. OTOH, me missing an appt hardly seems worthy of getting put on a “blacklist” that might prevent me from ever making a DR apt again---with any Dr. That’s a little over the top.
Aren’t blacklists supposed to be a place to advertise clients who are actually dangerous in some way?
A blacklisting doesn't mean he'll never be able to get a date again. It just means that the provider reports her experience with the man, so that others can make a more informed decision about seeing him.
If I am about to pull a trigger on a $300/night hotel for a date with this guy...I'll be VERY happy to know he's pulled a NCNS before. In that case, I'd either refuse to see him, or ask for a deposit before giving the hotel my credit card number.
A blacklist entry doesn't always entail full identifying info, either...it can just be hobby email, hobby handle, 'John Smith', etc.
It's also worth saying that every client who's stiffed me money (they were all regulars) has been blacklisted for NCNS or something else of a non-dangerous nature. It stands to reason that a man who has enough disrespect to NCNS might present some other problems eventually. As any seasoned ho knows, pay attention to the little things, and you won't have to worry about the big ones.
One client who stiffed me, I'd seen for several dinner dates and overnights, IN SPITE of the fact that he had several blacklistings for NCNS and last-minute cancellations. But, the guy had 40+ OK's on p411, and seemed to travel a lot. I figured that stuff just happened, and I do realized that b*tches can be catty. He seemed nice, sincere, and reliable...and his TER/P411 history was very well-established. So I had no problem seeing him.
Fast forward to two years later. He got me down to another city 2 hours away from me on false pretenses of booking a date. We had a 'session', then he thanked me for coming down all that way even though he had no $$$...
My mind kept going back to those blacklisting entries. Lesson learned: if a guy pisses a girl off enough that she'll list him there, I'll take notice. I *might* still see him after I take all factors into account...BUT, it's always good to have as much info as possible.
I BL'd my guy for ripping me off, and I'm sure he's still booking girls with no trouble.
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Is it Bring Your Own Bitching to your pity party
And depends on what you are blacklisting. If its just the TER Handle or P411/DC Handle its one thing, but if its his personal, employment information, the punishment doesn't fit the crime.
Granted he is a flake, and I emphasize with you for your lost business, but such overreactions from the provider community have rendered Blacklists ineffective and overall useless.
IMHO, BL should be reserved for dangerous people who really want to harm community
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Blacklists have categories that label men as either time-wasters, dangerous, unsafe, NCNS, etc. and ladies write a description of their experience with the man in detail. It's not just a simple blacklist post on a guy and they are shut out of the community. It helps the lady become aware and decide if they are willing to take the risk to see a NCNS, etc. or not. I have also seen men with blacklists for ncns & last minute cancels so it isn't really the end for a client. I really don't think it's an over reaction on my part. I spent a long time getting ready for him as my only client each time and to have him cancel while I stood there waiting was not fair when given the excuse he did the exact same time. I would rather have ladies be informed so they can decide if they want to risk being stood up the same way 2 times in a row as well based on my experience.
And to the above posts on ladies who are NCNS, you really shouldn't book a second time unless you take certain measures to ensure you are 100 percent in the door the 2nd time. That is, if you still want to see her. I get that life happens, but the same excuse in the same time frame from a man is totally unfair and ladies need to be aware. It makes me feel like ladies aren't posting blacklists as much as they should be when this happens twice in a row to me.
Granted he is a flake, and I emphasize with you for your lost business, but such overreactions from the provider community have rendered Blacklists ineffective and overall useless.
IMHO, BL should be reserved for dangerous people who really want to harm community
-- Modified on 5/6/2015 8:04:29 AM
Wow! Looks like he owes you two cancel fees?! Damn...
You may consider after a first cancel not rescheduling without a deposit. He may skip you over, on the reschedule due to that, but that may save you the headache of it happening again too and leave your spots open for gents that will show up.
I will not reschedule a new friend that cancels on me, even within the allowed window not to rack up a cancellation fee, without a deposit. More times than not, they've understood my hesitation and ponied up. If they didn't, just tells me they had every intention of pulling the same stunt again...
whether you are a provider or client. I just can't imagine it being blacklist-worthy in most situations. It's good to vent when you're pissed, but better to keep things in perspective and reserve action until after things have cooled off a bit.
If you've had enough of him, fine. Block him and move on. Collect a cancel fee if you have one. Spread word on the PO board. LOL, maybe he'll call again and you can set him up for the same!!
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