freind of mine used to say that a BJ is always better because you dont even have to take your pants off...lol...

Though I have temporarily quit the hobby here is my experience!

1.  With a condom, I almost never cum in penetration- have twice and it is wonderful, the closeness is almost spiritual and I love it.  It is best if she knows I am cumming and really gives a giant squeeze- hard to beat it!

2.  Oral varies with the provider- feels awesome obviously, that is why we all love it so much.  but there can be great technique to make it that much better.  

Unbelievable teasing and hand action really helps- continuous hard oral numbs after awhile.  Stopping and varying helps.  Teeth can help but you've got to know where the guy likes and can tolerate.  

And although continuing during and after the orgasm is very intense, just like women, it is incredibly sensitive after and sometimes too much so.  One of the best I ever experienced, the person just holds me in her mouth a long time after and it is awesome.  

Finally great hand action and squeezing at the time of CIM is about the most intense orgasm I can have!

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NOTHING feels quite the same as a blow job. I don't care how good the muscle control is, you just can't get the same feeling as you do from lips and a tongue.

Are you asking for a comparison of the process, including the buildup, or just the ejaculatory experience?

Let's Turn This Around...Do You Get The Same Feeling From...

oral on you to orgasm and from intercourse orgasms?  That is of course assuming you can cum from intercourse.

Then there is always the question of digital stimulation?  Also the same?

I am sure guys are just as curious as the ladies.


BTW, for me, I have had very intense orgasms both ways, but my most intense ever was a 69 experience that rocked my world so hard I seriously thought I was going to break my back I convulsed so hard.


Picture below is not me, but I thought it was good for a laugh!

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Whether one is better than the other depends on too many factors to give a definitive answer:  skill of the giver, preference of the receiver, covered or not, etc.

The most erotic feeling is from cumming in a woman's mouth. Not the wide open-mouthed jerk-off-on-the-tongue like you see in the pornos, but when she takes it as deep into her throat as she can, and keeps sucking as I cum down her throat. And then keeps sucking.

There is nothing better IMHO

No, by no means a lame question.

obviously the 2 differ; but I get really turned on when a provider allows CIM ... & if she swallows that is even more erotic.

Can't say I prefer one over the other... a bit of both'll do ya!

I find it very difficult adjusting to a cover, but have had really great orgasms in both intercourse (never with cover and only w/SO) and BBJ.  I find the more muscle groups involved help to make the orgasm more intense, so even though nothin beats a great BBJ, the muscle groups involved are somewhat less involved.

To me, the answer to this question has to go beyond mere mechanics.  When you really connect during intercourse, physically and emotionally, the resulting orgasm is far more intense than with BBJ.

It's more a question of a shared experience as opposed to having something done to you.  That being said, it is difficult and fairly rare to achieve that connection without a long term relationship.

In fact, it's not even the same from lady to lady. I am currently having the most intense orgasms of my life and they are induced orally from my ATF. I enjoy penetration as well but I just find that the build-up and climax are more powerful from a slow playful BBBJ than form intercourse. Of course, I'm always doing more research...

I am unable to achieve orgasm from a BJ, so there is no similarity at all.

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For me, it's hard to finish when I'm on my back. That's why I like girls who like to be on top, I can last forever. However, if the girl moves right, and can make me cum while she has total control over me, I just let go, and it is incredible. Sometimes I actually get a little dizzy this way. It is very similar to cuming from a bj. The only reason the bj is better for me, is the erotic turn on of the cim. But this is still only on my back. If I'm sitting up, I don't get the same effect.

BJ and CG the best
Mish or lazy dog next

Doggie is the worst for me. It feels great, and is a total power trip, but I only feel in one place. I don't get the body contact. It is like jerking off. I finish, and think, okay, I'm a little disappointed with that.

Great question

For me it really depends on the person I'm with.  Of course having a cover or not also matters.
Not that I'm promoting not using a cover but it is always better without, so a CIM without cover is usually better than covered intercourse.  If both are uncovered then it really depends on the person.   I haven't had many ladies that could really DT me without gagging so that also plays into it.
All of this reminds me of someone who had the tightest pussy ever.  I swear that when I came inside of her she would grip my cock so tight that I didn't think I would be able to pull my dick out.  I would take intercourse with her over anything else.

It is hard to judge one part of it when taken out of the context of the entire work.

The best sex builds slowly and deliberately with little excursions here and there before returning to the main path and to the cresendo.  Also important is a great aftermath where the experience can be savoured and enjoyed in the lingering.

To answer your question though, I like to either come in someone's mouth and have them swallow, or cum all over their tits and face.

It looks really neat.

I generally don't get enough stimulation from a bj, though recently a woman was successful in getting me to erupt and then just kept it in her mouth until I was drained and soft. It was  truly memorable. However, I prefer a good cg or mish with the tension and pressure that stimulates the base of the shaft as it attaches to the body. It's not the "drilling" deep that is the object, but the aforementioned sensation. That's what's missing with only mouth action bj, but adding hj with bj can do it.

Thats an excellent question.!

Too bad I dont have enough experience to give an answer!

...I think some research is in order!

For me, it takes a relatively skilled oral artist to bring my to completion through BJ (and it definitely takes a mix of hand and mouth action).  Often, these orgasms are intense, but feel a little ... hollow ... somehow.  Great fun, but very little of the "whole being" kind of feeling.

On the other hand, intercourse with the right person can be unbelievable.  The cover does tend to put a slight bit of a damper on things, but with some of you women, that is a necessary impediment to premature festivities

I find that an orgasm through intercourse is more varied than through oral.  But, when it is good, it is REALLY good.

It's not a lame question at all, but it does depend on a lot of things. I'm old enough to remember sex without condoms, when you could actually feel something during intercourse (when I was married or had a GF).  During that time, it was a much closer call than it is now as to my preference.  Everybody loves a BBBJ, but if I was with a woman I loved, then the deep feeling of intimacy when I had an orgasm deep inside of her was truly a  wonderful experience, and certainly something that promoted couple-bonding.  Something a BJ isn't going to do, even though it feels great.

Having a vivid memory of what intercourse actually feels like, I've recently opted to just have either BJ or HJ sex with providers.  Not feeling what I'm doing makes me so angry that I don't enjoy the experience.  No, that's not strong enough, it pisses me off so much that I go home really upset.  I finally decided to just stop punishing myself with really bad sex and get a FBSM or a BBBJTC.

But to answer your question, one of the differences between vaginal and oral sex is that during oral, if your partner pulls back at the moment you cum, or prevents you from thrusting because she's afraid of choking, then it can be much less satisfying than intercourse.

Our natural desire is to thrust hard during orgasm (for obvious reasons in the baby-making process).  This feels good to us and heightens the intensity of our orgasm.  Anyone who ever practiced the withdrawal method of birth control knows how unsatisfying that can be.

But if a woman is afraid she'll choke while giving head, or just doesn't want to swallow, she might instinctively pull back.  This leaves you with the feeling that you're kind of left out in the cold, so to speak.  You'll still cum, but you'll miss out on the sensation of thrusting up against something as you ejaculate.

Now a woman who is practiced in the the art of oral sex and can allow you to cum while she's still sucking down hard on the penis can provide a truly intense experience for a man.  Women who have mastered this skill are highly sought after on this board and we hear them recommended on the local boards fairly often.

You didn't ask, but a woman who can give a skilled HJ can also give a very intense orgasm to a guy since the hand can apply so much pressure, varied stimulation, and can also simulate that thrusting while cumming sensation simply by pulling down (or back) away from the head during orgasm.  Or alternatively, she can just keep pumping hard with her hand.

I'm very sad to say that in the era of condoms, vaginal sex is my third, no fourth favorite way of having sex.  Oral, HJ and anal, not necessarily in that order, all feel better.  And the reason anal is on the list is it's the only way I can experience any sensation and have an orgasm while wearing a condom- and condom wearing is really mandatory with anal unless extensive precautions have been taken prior to intercourse.

Also, the same pretty much applies to a covered BJ.  I'd rather use the money on something else I wanted or needed, rather than waste my time getting a covered BJ and go home pissed-off.  I quit seeing one of my favorite girls after two years when she switched to giving CBJ's.  In fact, other must have felt the same way because she lost most of her business and stopped escorting a few months later.  

I really, truly, feel sorry for the younger generation that has grown up in the fear of AIDS era.  They'll never know the incredible intimacy that can be shared between a man and a woman when they've gotten to the level of being on the same wave length in terms of their lovemaking.   Maybe it's better they don't know what they're missing.



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The main difference

between the two, for me, is one of intimacy.

Although, as some have mentioned, having a lady ingulph me with her mouth and bring me to ejaculation, and swallowing, is very intense, it is not something that is as deeply 'felt' as when I experience orgasm/ejaculation while in the missionary position.

I guess the intimacy of being able to look deeply in her eyes, hearing her breath and gently caressing her face add more to the sensation than feeling a versitile tongue on my manhood.

One other point is that with a BBBJ, I feel more like I am being 'taken', whereas in missionary, I feel more like I am 'giving'. With the added benefit that by 'giving' I can control when it occurs. So I can bring myself to the edge, come back a little, go back to the edge, etc. No matter how good a lady is at reading signs from a guy, if a guy has good ejaculation control skills he will better be able to control the build-up. With intercourse, I can expereince multiple orgasms before I ever ejaculate. I was able to once have a dry orgasm via BBBJ prior to having another with an ejaculation shortly thereafter, but it is more rare and requires more of a perfect setting.

And one final note, I seem to sense more 'heat' (which is a plus) coming from a lady via intercourse (if she is properly aroused) than via her mouth.

In terms of the intensity of the orgasm, without a doubt BBBJTCNQNS is the most intense.  It shouldn't be too surprising since you get full contact with warm moist tissue.

That said, as a few have noted, the intimacy of an orgasm from a position such as mish is very satisfying.  It seems much more of a joint endeavor than just laying back with the BJ.

So I like one of each in a session

Re: bj vs intercourse

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