Even in other contexts where there is a common interest, get togethers can be difficult. In a context with potential legal problems it will be even more difficult. We we all know you'll behave but what is someone gets out of line and puts everyone at risk?

"Free" get togethers typically don't work since no one has an investment in being there and typically there's no motivation for someone to go to all the effort to put it together without a profit motive.

Also, there needs to be some screening as without it people may be paranoid and uncomfortable and what fun would that be?
There needs to be some assurances that the person you're meeting is who they say they are. Any ladies that show up need to receive a benefit or why bother? Their benefit could be that the men are pre-screened to some degree. And of course that leads to the bottom line of: without ladies, what men would wish to attend?

The only way I see for this to work is if a strong known lady who's seen and screened plenty of men puts it together. There needs to be a small fee so it's worthwhile for her to go to the effort yet small enough that most wouldn't begrudge it or feel it too big a risk ($40?) That lady would have to screen everyone who attended which would be easy if she found some other providers interested and all could invite their fully screened friends. There would need to be firm ground rules of no sex - just a social event too.  Exchange business cards and/or phone numbers only.

There's a great event like this that a provider puts together in Seattle once a year and it's very well done. It can be announced on the board including date and time but only screened folks are given the details privately.

Just setting a date and time for a bunch of men to meet in a park (or beach) isn't gonna get me there.

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