I agree that people will go where they are best served. My comments were made as food for thought. Flame wars against providers don't gain any friends either. In fact, I rarely see gentlemen anymore, choosing instead to allow the ladies my agency represents to gain from my vast contact list instead. However, seeing as how we represent some of the premiere ladies of color in the industry, (that can not be found elsewhere, independently or through other sources,) I tend to think that means something... (Of course, I could be wrong.) Simply put, I really wanted to evoke thought. There are often things that are said by reviewers & posters, (yes, I recognize the difference in the two,) that are simply untrue - and from chatting with several ladies (of various racial backgrounds, industry status or not,) the change in the boards intended usage has become more frustrating that beneficial to many of them. To respond to your comments that, "I think there are several reasons why this board is more combative compared to others - the stakes are higher for ladies in this board; the amount exchanged is bigger; the needs for maintaining public images are supreme; the info distributed national wide; admittingly most of the porn starlets publicly available have been in the industry for quite a while..." You must recognize that other national porn star boards are not necessarily as ombative as this one. No person should be allowed to repeatedly attack another starting a flame war: whether that person is a client, provider, porn star or of any other ilk. There are unspoken rules that no provider should/ will be allowed to post personal information of a client - yet it took our current mod to get gents to see that posting a ladies direct information without her consent, (or it being listed on a public ad site,) is simply not ok. I agree that those that read my comments for the first time and did not already know my reputation might not want to become friends, however I believe that a lady reading this and other boards for the first time might not want to become friends with certain gents as well. There is a rule that says advertising ladies must place a TER Banner on their website for the right to link, but there is no regulation that says a gent must identify himself as a TER user in order to utilize either in the for of post or review the same site...

A few years ago when I first found this and other sites like it, I rejoiced. Here was a way for gentlemen callers to find out information about a lady he has interest in that no self-respecting agency or independent would reveal over the phone out of fear of LE. However over the years, the face of the boards have changed. Now, not so gentle men use the boards as a way to coerce or force ladies into submitting to certain acts that they deem a "must." Women that work in the skin trade are often referred to (and treated as imho,) as chattel for pleasure, instead of as lovely courtesans willing to please.

I met a man once that had a specific vision of what he wanted, and how we would achieve it based on his overall view of adult vids. After 2 visits, I realized that I was not giving him his fantasy because he had already laid a road map that for me made it impossible to physically to make this particular fantasy so. I implored him to lay his vision to the wayside and allow me to guide. His fantasy was achieved, and as a result I have now seen him over 30 times, (including 3 separate 2 girl experiences.)

When you say that Staff does a good job in moderation, tht is subjective. I personally have contated Staff about my profile and have never once received a response. There are thngs stated in my profile that are simply untruths. Things stated there that I would NEVER do with a gentlemen that I meet in a professional setting, current information about me, as well as information stated in reviews that are very well embleshments on the meeting (perhaps made to make the gent feel a sense of power or perhaps made to make him look special when another doesn't receive those same treatments.) While your comment about anonimity rings true, has anyone every thought about the damage one can do through such a cloud? A few people have said I swallow, (which I do not, & when asked by email I will & have said so,) but when a guy shows up with a copy of a review in hand expecting a play by play, it does more harm than good. I've actually spoken to other ladies that feel the same way. When a reviewer posts that he received special concideration yet doesn't note that he managed to go around the worlD and back again because he spent 3 or 4+ hours with her... another will walk through the door expecting to rush through the same paces in merely an hour, (AND OF COURSE WHEN THAT DOESN'T HAPPEN A FLAME WAR ENSUES!)

True it is up to TER members to determine who is more credible. But let's not forget that there is a new member (and lurker,) everyday (both potenteial client & provider) that does not have the benefit of your experience here. If a first time visiting lady saw you bad-mouthing another lady here and determined that she would never see you based on that one thread alone, would you blame her? No... the same train of though should be applied in reverse. After all, this is not a "clients only" board my Love... Anything can happen.

As for using providers' only boards that currently exist, we already do that and more. We backchannel one another for our safety and mental well being. I hope that the thought isn't that we aren't bright enough to do that!

SL

But there are many ladies that charge rates much higher than myself anf others like me, without ever coming "above the radar." But I do understand your commentary. I don't look at what I do as simply taking someone's money... if I (& those like me) did we wouldn't receive such "stellar" reviews... Agin, you mention the lack of taking this one indidvual seriously, but you are here on a fairly regular basis... but to the person that just joined toda, would they view the thread the same way?

SL

I was a) surprised that Doc posted, and b) surprised that you let it stand. I don't think your thinking was faulty, but surely you understood what mischief this could cause.

Men see providers as a form of therapy, to a certain extent. Providers surely understand this, but to insist that all their clients be 100% non-dysfunctional emotionally is reaching. To suggest we are less because we're paying them to have sex with us is disingenuous and offensive. Particularly here, where this board has only helped them create a more inefficient market than it should be.

Problem with your moderating the board? I thought I was a funny guy, but I can't touch that.

I used the same argument (contact Staff or GND) and the whiners still whined and cried.

Finally, I got to the point where I ignored them, or laughed at them.

Often it seemed that the loudest people complaining were the ones who liked to create the most trouble, and were often in need of moderation.