OK, I figure I'll jump in with both feet.  

Here's some of the "tricks of the trade" I've learned or discovered in my years of hobbying that will help newbies (and some not-so-newbies) find contact information for their favorite PSEs.

Two caveats beforehand.

First a little plug for TER.  Spend the 20 bucks for a VIP membership.  Beside access to reviews which often contains direct contact info, membership gives you the ability to PM other members for back channel information, which is invaluable for communicating with "senior hobbyists", most of whom are more than willing to share information. When I first started hobbying, my chief source was that supplied by very kind and generous guys who were unselfish not only with their information, but also with their advice and in many cases they even acted as the "middle-man" between myself and the lady I was interested in.  

Second, if you've posted ISO after ISO without anyone responding, it's probably because your question has been asked and answered dozens of times before on this board.  PLEASE do some research before posting.

Now on to the tips...

1.  The first thing I always do is a "Search Messages" on this very board.  Click on the link, put the girl's name in the search field, set the search criteria from 1000 to 0 days and go for it.  

2. There are a lot of great internet sources for locating pornstar contact info.  www.freeones.com offers links to dozens of photogalleries of most of the pornstars out there, and many will include the link to the PSEs personal website (more on pornstar's websites later).  Another source is www.searchextreme.com, an adult DVD store who has a pornstar search function.  Some of the pornstar profiles will contain an email address for the particular pornstar.  These are the first two sites I check when I'm searching for contact info.  

I also use a site called www.thefloatingworld.com which is a catch-all site for pornstars, feature dancers, the adult industry in general and hundreds of "gentleman's clubs".  Again, if the pornstar in question has a personal website, it'll be listed there.  Also valuable is that they list the appearance schedule for most of the major gentleman's clubs throughout the U.S. so you can see who is coming to a club near you so you can possibly try to meet them in person and approach them there.  More about that later also.

3.  Google.  The old standby... unfortunately sometimes they give you too much information.  It can return pages and pages of links.  And if a girl has a common name you'll get a lot of links that have nothing to do with who you're looking for.  You can try to narrow the search by including words like "escort" or "adult" or "pornstar" in the search field, but Google can be a hit or miss proposition... still, it's worth a try.

4.  Yahoo Groups.  These days most pornstar have their own Yahoo Groups and a yahoo email address that they can be reached at.

5.  Myspace... like Yahoo Groups, it seems that every pornstar has a myspace profile.

6.  Pornstar referrals... Each time you meet a PSE for some private time, before you leave ask her which of her girlfriends she'd recommend you meet.  I can't think of a PSE I've met that didn't have one or two girls she'd suggest, and she was either willing to give me their contact info or at least offer to act as the middleman when I was ready to meet her.

If a girl's direct contact is out there, you should be able to find it using one of those above sources.  I've often seen an ISO posted here and I've been able to find her contact info in less time than it probably took the guy to post the ISO.

Here's some specific suggestions for contacting pornstars through their personal websites and/or meeting them at a strip-club.

WEBSITES:  Not all pornstars run their own sites.  Some are corporate owned and the girl simply licenses her name, or in other cases it's her site but someone else runs it and answers her emails (worse case scenario, her husband/boyfriend, who can be the ultimate cock-blockers).  A few clues to whether or not she's actively involved is if she has an up to date diary posted on the site, and/or a CURRENT listing of her appearance schedules.  A clue that she ISN'T running the site is if it's one of those slick websites with the cluttered tour pages.  These indicators aren't etched in stone, but they're good rules of thumbs.

Once you're pretty sure that you are emailing who you think you are, remember that you're an unknown to her.  So emailing her and asking "do you escort?" isn't the way to approach things.  Be respectful, be SUBTLE, and in my personal opinion, exchange a few emails with her before asking if she "ever meets fans one-on-one".

STRIPCLUBS:  Very hit-or-miss, but there are some things you can do to increase your odds.  If it's a club you frequent regularly, ask the manager or bouncer to give you a personal introduction as a good customer.  If you aren't a regular, consider slipping the manager/bouncer a 20 bill for the intro.

If you've seen other PSEs, the "Score Method" will signigicantly increase your chances.  Invented by a senior hobbyist on this board, Score would bring a photo of himself with another pornstar and show it to the girl he was targeting at the club.  One important note: it has to be a photo that was obviously not "staged"; you and she standing next to each other at AVN or Glamourcon or a photo taken at another strip-club isn't going to work.  It should be a photo of the two of you having dinner, a photo of you and her in a hotel room, etc... something intimate (but not necessarily explicit).  Score swears by this method and it has worked for him time and time again.

So there you have it... some of the various methods I've used in the past successfully to get direct contact information for my favorite PSEs.  Hope this helps.  

-- Modified on 4/3/2006 8:54:58 PM