I'm a newer hobbyist and have recently come across a few providers that ask for work phone # for screening purposes. My question is what exactly do they do with that and how does it work? Other than prove that I have a job what does it accomplis? I'm just leary of giving out my work # to providers...any advice here would be appreciated.
It's not unusual for providers to ask new clients for their real name and work phone number, particularly if they don't have a verifiable reference.
Remember, she doesn’t know you from Adam!!! In her eyes, you could just as easily be a cop, as a lonely, horny, newbie. Every new client puts her in a legally compromising position.
So why does she ask for you name and work number? If you say that you are John Smith, and work for XYZ Co. at xxx-xxx-xxxx, she can call that number, and feel some relief if she is transferred to you, or you answer the phone “XYZ Co., this is John Smith”.
This system is not perfect, LE can set up false clients, complete with a work number and back-story, but this doesn’t happen often.
What does she do with the info? She may, or may not call you at work. I’ve given out my work number many times, but have only been called at work once, and then the lady was very discreet. Once she is confident that you are what you say you are, she has no need for the information, and she trashes it.
I've read of only one or two situations here on TER, where giving these details have resulted in grief for the client.
There are a few reasons why a provider might ask for your employment:
As you stated possibly to get an understanding that you are indeed in a position to afford her time....
Possibly to have a contact other than your home, should you decide to greet her with a hammer instead of the usual suggested donation....
Possibly to help her establish a more confident level of comfort before she agrees to meet with you.... I mean, if a guy slaughters pigs as a lively hood, I am not necessarily going to deny seeing him but I might try to get a few more details about his activities in his leisure time!
Perhaps you might want to consider this..... you are not confident enough in the provider that you are seeing to divulge your employer ... but you are going to plan on getting intimate with her..??
Sometimes it is frightening to hear of a hobbyist who is more concerned with where he parks his car than where he parks his dick... sorry to sound harsh but gentlemen please don't forget your priorities.
This isn't a dress rehearsal, you are living in the real world! The level to which a provider protects her own safety is more than likely in direct proportion to the level in which she will protect you.
Happy Hobbying (*and know your provider's reputation*)... kisses ~Tori
About submitting my work information recently, 2 a well reviewed lady(that's the only way to get an appt. with her). I'm hoping the time spent with her, is less business-like.
Here's some of the things you can expect her to do with that information, and some she wont.
Disclaimer: I'm not a provider, I just see them, and this is what I expect a well-reviewed provider do with my information.
Will:
Call the switchboard where you work, and ask "Can I speak to [your name]?". If asked what it's about, she'll be evasive. She'll either give a non-answer, or lie such as, "we're working on his plumbing". If anyone asks, your hot water heater went out. Again. Yes, it's 4 times this month. They really don't make them like they used to.
Won't:
"Hey, I'm looking for [your name]. He's paying me $$$ to f*ck his brains out tomorrow at his house at 8:00. He's a really sick bastard will all these strange fantasies about his coworkers. Especially the babe who answers the phone."
Will:
She will keep this information somewhere at her place during your first appointment. She'll let a friend or family member know where to find it, in case she doesn't come home. After the appointment, she'll get rid of it.
Won't:
Stick the information in her "To be blackmailed" file cabinet, ready to offer it up to the next cop that busts her. (Blackmail carries a harsher punishment than prostitution. Also, in most states the provider is in far more legal jepordy for a prostitution bust, so serving you up wouldn't help her-prosecutors don't trade down and the information will just boost the number of counts she's charged with).
Now, if your job is, say, at the White House, then you might want to pick your provider very, very carfully (Or just use the ones the military contractors bring for you).
For any of us 'regular folks', it's perfectly safe as long as you're choosing a well-established provider.
-- Modified on 5/10/2006 3:23:50 PM
I learned the hard way not to give this information to a provider who is new, or not well reviewed.
She had a third party who was an idiot do the calling. Suffice it to say it was NOT discreet.
There is a service called "Room Service 2000", Google them. They take care of all the preliminaries for a small fee and your SP can contact them for verification. They have been doing this for years and are very discreet.It is very popular here in the Chicago area.
advice given by the other posters, if you have anything to lose by being found out in this hobby, you would be crazy to give out that kind of info to a provider. A provider has every right to ask for anything she wants to feel comfortable and the hobbiest has an equal right to move right along to someone else.