Okay so I set up a meeting with a provider and she's coming to my place. (So excited) Aside from the usual, (clean the place up) what can I do to make her feel more comfortable. She said she likes red wine so I'll have that, but anything else? Music? Suggestions? Do's? Don'ts?
-Thanks
1) Relax!!! be yourself, and let yourself enjoy the experience.
2) I addition to the ususal (clean the place up, the primary reason I only do incall), take a shower shortly before she arrives, and put on some fresh clothes, nothing fancy, just clean.
3) Have the money in an envelope in an obvious place. However, I've often found the that a blank greeting card, with a personal message has on many occasions has been a tremendous hit.
4) Music? Jazz, Soft Rock, Classic Rock ballads, current mixes, are common, but once the visit is scheduled, I don't think it is out of line to ask her preferences.
5) MOST IMPORTANT!!! Remember, you are paying her to provide you pleasure! If see is a real pro, she can adapt to you, and your music and environment. However, knowing this, if you are a nice guy, you can make her work environment more enjoyable.
Since I'm an exhibitionisn, how about waiting till she arrives and taking a quick shower while she watches?
GREAT Advice...
when I do an outcall to someone's home, them being relaxed relaxes me. Being offered something to drink right away makes me feel welcome. And soft music is wonderful - takes care of those awkward silences.
Do you have pets? I personally love animals, but make sure she isn't afraid of them.
As jazz32 mentioned, this is YOUR visit. I know you want her to have a great time - but she will want YOU to have a great time as well!
Hope you have a GREAT time!!
If she is coming to your house, give her a tour and let her see that it is only the two of you there, especially if you have a large place. Her level of comfort will be proportional to your experience.
Also, if you have pets let her know in advance. I love animals but some people do have allergies. If she does have allergies or fear of animals make sure to put them in a seperate room or outside temporarily while you spend time together.
Okay, thanks a lot for all the tips and will follow through on them. Actually I had already asked her about any cat allergies. Wouldn't want the pussy causing her to sneeze.
All sound advice so far. One thing I would suggest is that if you offer her a drink open and pour it in front of her.
I once walked out of an outcall because the guy went to the kitchen to poor me a drink and took a long time to come back. That combined with the girlie mags lying around made me feel like I just didn’t want to be alone is his apartment with this guy.
for he is the Yoda to newbie hobbyists. I have an ATF and another regular provider that I have a great friendship with becasue of his help. The greeting card thing is best as long as it is sincere. These ladies we see like to be reminded that they are women. I try to treat them the same way I would if we were really dating.
As far as how to make her feel relaxed at your place, just think about what you would like going to an unfamilar place and would make you feel better. As far as music, i would have several choices ready and say, "I have a nice selction of music, is there anything you would like to hear?"
Lastly, enjoy the time!