How do you check if you are white listed by a provider or not???
Thanks in advance for your help!

My TER, then the More tab drop down menu, My Referrals

Is it bad etiquette to ask for a white list? Should you just earn it and hope for the best?

...I usually wait a day or two then send an e-mail requesting the white list. Just say something simple and unconditional like, "If you feel comfortable white listing me I would really appreciate it".

That sounds exactly like something I would say. Thanks for the advice!

Right! I only have a handful of WL's and I wasn't familiar with the process initially until a provider did it for me after I visited her.  I've only asked for one, the rest just chose to WL.  But xyz23 is absolutely right, it's your profile, your money, nothing wrong with asking a provider to whitelist you.

Always ask for a whitelisting after a visit.  Assuming you earned it, they should not hesitate to give it to you.  If they don't that is a good reason not to visit them again.

...if you "earned it."  A lot of guys have a stank ass, B.O. or bad breath and don't even know it.  Then they wonder why they weren't whitelisted.

If you arrived and left in a timely manner, left the agreed sum, didn't threaten or harm her, didn't insult and degrade her.  If so you've earned a whitelist.  If you have a hygiene problem, you probably aren't reading this forum anyhow.  

Just like it's not up to the lady to decide she has "earned" a 10-10 review.  

Sometimes it takes providers time to input for us. Instead of worrying, waiting, and missing on a date. Just make sure to pay for the VIP and have a couple other verification services. Then you don't have to worry.

I'll make an exception for your case.  The rest of us know whether our behavior has been civil. You seem to be cloudy on the issue.  If she pats you on the head and gives you a gold star then you've been a good little boy.