I have searched the message boards and haven't found exact answers to these questions, although other posts have touched on the issues.
1. What's the best way to avoid LE? I have heard that asking isn't enough. Some say looking for a provider with good reviews helps, but others have been busted still. Some say insist on outcall, others say go independent. What's 10 ten things to cover yourself and avoid LE. FYI: I am not LE. Really truely.
2. The idea of a BBBJ/CIM is exciting but of course I don't want an STDs. Is a BBBJ any more dangerous for a man than DFK or DATY? In the review says she does BBBJ and swallows, should I worry about her being clean?
3. Since I don't have any references, what's the best way to get an appointment or screened?
We all do not want STD's. The only sure way to avoid STD's are: 1) Don't do it; or 2) Do it with only one person who only does it with you. Anything else is risking STD's.
Think about it. A condom is only 70% effective, and she is only fertile 3 days a month. STD's can be transmitted any time.
Any transfer of body fluids increases the risk of STD's. BBBJ and DFK transfers her saliva. DATY transfers her ...
BBBJ/CIM increases her risk of receiving an STD, thus increasing your risk of recieving it from her.
That said, it tends to be safer than picking up a chick at a bar. A professional is much more aware of minimizing her risk of contracting an STD.
Regarding references: use a service like roomservice2000.com
I had a BBBJ 6 weeks ago and I have been sick ever since.
so stay away from that. The provider I selected claims she has no std's but won't test even when offered 5 times her hourly rate.
You are so full of BS. In an earlier post you claimed she HAD tested and came up clean; now you are claiming otherwise.
Pay zero attention to this nimrod. He's been whining about being sick for weeks after his alleged BBBJ, even though he didn't stop it from happening, and got sick far to early for it to caused by an STD. Further, his symptons, taken all together, don't match STDs. His problem is probably stress.
bikebyran you like to follow me everywhere You must have a cause here somewhere, Please show me where I said she tested. she won't test. I have tested 5 times since april 11 on 2 different types of tests. she has yet to test one time or produce a copy of her last test.
My only "cause" is to stop you from spreading disinformation. You have been told many times that your problems don't add up to any STD. You have been tested many times and come up negative. Your HIV is still pending, but it would not cause any of your symptoms as quickly as you claim all this happened.
You persist on blaming the provider for your problems, and refuse to take responsibility for any of it - but nobody forced you to allow her to give you a BBBJ, TWICE.
You repeatedly imply that she gave you something, yet offer no proof that you even have any STDs, let alone that she gave you anything. It is know, however, that stress CAN cause physical manifestations of illness, and you definetly show signs of stress.
Do us all a favor. Until you DO get proof that you have some sort of STD, please stop posting your unfounded allegations. I'm sorry you are sick, but frankly I (and from reading these boards, many others) are sick and tired of hearing about them.
BB is not the only one sick of your whining. We usually show more understanding to newbies, but you have sorely tested the patience of everyone here. The symptoms you have described ad nauseam are not consistant with an STD. They sound much more like the ravings of a stressed out hypochondriac. By your own admission, you've been tested 5 times. Get over it already.
We've asked nicely, now please take your whining somewhere else. Maybe a good shrink might help. Bye now, have a nice day, but please have it somewhere else.
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Top ten a bit much but #1 rule is to NEVER EVER discuss $$$ with provider, for your safety and hers.
Suggest you look into joining service such as Date
Check, Roomservice... they ask for same info as a provider would but once a member, easy process where the provider contact THEM for verification.
There are many providers who will accept you as client without references but you have to give them time to respond and verify you... do NOT expect a same day appointment this way... suggest you start out by trying to schedule a week in advance to give plenty of time for your verification.
It has occured to me that one possible way to reduce the risk of LE is to date a well reviewed traveling provider.
What police department is going to set up an elaborate scheme of a visiting provider? If she really does travel around, she can't be working for a particular local LE.
Also, choosing a provider listed with the referral services (www.roomservice2000.com and www.date-check.com) provides some assurance that the lady has passed their legitimacy check (and paid an advertising fee).
Still doesn't help if the provider was busted before you got there, and they turned it into a John sting.
So, probably an out-call with a traveling provider my have a lower risk.
One other thought. I like to book lunch/dinner dates. If you start off with lunch/dinner, either:
1) LE does not want to waste an hour with you at dinner before anything happens.
2) If you are busted before anything happens, it may make it a tougher case to prove that you had any intentions other a nice evening on the town (legal escorting).