Is it rare to find somebody willing to perform this service on a guy who can prove his sexual health?  I am having a hard time finding a woman in the state of CT willing to perform this service and I'm not finding many ads for them.  Any advice on where to look, any downsides to this type of service?  Looking for a quick response.

GFE is pretty easy to find.  What exactly are you looking for that is making it hard to find?  And why would you need to "prove" your sexual health?  Do you have some unusual anatomical feature that could be mistaken for a contagious disease?

Sounds like your idea of "GF experience" equates to BBFS. If that is the case, its no wonder you can't find anyone to perform this service.

My advice would be to look elsewhere. Even better yet, get a wife or girlfriend. No one here is going to point you in any direction that even resembles BBFS.

as well as castigated by everyone on these boards.

and there just aren't a heck of a lot of gnomes in Connecticut.

Its been said but I just have to chime in here... Only a fool tries to get bbfs and only another fool would allow it. Look else where as stated.

for the most part. It's EASY to find. If you want Bareback FS, you will have to go to NYC. I know a handful  who do it, but won't post their names on a public board. PM me for details. You will generally pay extra for that BTW. It's risky biz Brother. Consider that strongly!

Let's not mess with the poor gnomes!  LOL!

Hey Jane,

What I mean is I don't like to wear condoms, it's not a fear issue, it's a preference and quality issue.  Now I know that it is a health issue to some, with so many STD's around that weren't here 20 years ago.  A GFE in my view is having sex with no condoms, but also it means to have a relationship that goes beyond the client/worker aspect.  An open relationship with some measure of emotional attachment.  I have nothing unusual about me, but I guess the fear factor with the above mentioned STD's has got people reluctant to perform such a service.  I would be a first time client to anybody and so I know there is a trust issue between the client and worker.  Make no mistake about it, I think about the cleanliness of a woman as well, but that's where trust comes in play.  I realize that a GFE or bareback sexual experience costs more because it is considered risky to some.  Bottom line, is I pay for comfort and quality first.  I have looked in the Hartford Advocate and other alternitive newspapers before I found TER.  Anyway, thanks for the positive feedback, I will not be seeking gnomes in CT.

The term GFE has never encompassed BBFS.  BBBJ maybe but never BBFS.

Sorry for the mad face but it does get me riled up to see that interpertation.

what does bbfs mean thats a new one for me!

Seriously dude, sign up for Adult Friend Finder and look for an actual, yanno GIRL FRIEND. As in monogomous, no $$ exchanged, and an expectation that you will ocassionally bring her flowers, listen to her talk about her crazy mother, and meet her family kind of arrangement.

BBFS has absolutely NO business being a part of p2p activities. NONE. You will NEVER find a reputable lady willing to provide BBFS to you no matter HOW much money you offer her. If you do find a lady willing to provide BBFS it is a 100% guarantee that words like reputable, safe, sane, and most importantly CLEAN are words that do not apply to her. To be blunt, if she will sell YOU that extra service, she will sell it to ANYONE willing to pay a little extra for it. Now where are you? Sharing rented space with half the male population in your area. Brilliant.

While definitions vary, GFE never, NEVER means BBFS.  

What you describe as to "have a relationship that goes beyond the client/worker aspect", well that's a regular girlfriend.  Beyond the client/provider relationship lies a flaming pit of drama, arguments, in-laws, and unshaved armpits.  Maybe also some BBFS, that is, if she's not too tired, too turned off by your beer gut, or too busy.  Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's why a lot of men are on TER-- to FIND a client/provider relationship.  

The good ladies you will find here stick to the client/provider relationship.  Ideally, a friendship will form over time, but the envelope keeps anything further from developing.

for your local crack-ho.  She'll do bbfs and smoke with you after.

BBFS = Russian roulette

Feel lucky... well do ya punk?

LMFAO about your stupidity.

google "urban dictionary", you find most acronyms
or google the acronym

If I was a porn star (yeah, right!) I could go to a clinic in LA, get tested, bring my test results to the shoot, and be balls deep inside some starlet, bareback. From what I read, the porn industry relies on stringent testing, because they know their entire industry would collapse if actors started turning up with AIDS.

The porn industry has not had any dramatic AIDS scares. Don't know about herpes.

So why can't a client show up to a provider, with a recent test in hand, and expect BBFS? Lets assume the clinic has a method such that the test results cannot be faked - maybe a hologram (like your credit card) or a special seal (like a notary).

Is it because of the birth control aspect of condoms? Is it because providers save that activity for their SO? Is it just "too personal?"

You obviously have not seen the list of stars that have contracted HIV or are dead. And it's not only aids but other diseases as well (Hepatitis, herpes etc.). And I'm not sure as I'm not and never will be a porn star, but I have the suspicion that escorts see way more volume than porn stars do (correct me if I'm wrong), hence even more risk.

Unfortunately, such is the industry that BB is almost a staple (from what I've read) and those that wish to participate either go with the flow or get out, but that doesn't make it safer.

I think the whole testing thing is sort of a salve for those who wish to partake to make it seem safer. If frequent tsting was the way to go don't you think all the ladies here would be doing it? Plus HIV being what it is, isn't there a period of time that one can carry it but it not detectable, so the times in between one could be spreading it?

Not an authoruty on communicable diseases, just someone who prefers to see 70 in good health and not kill off my SO.

Hi FJ...

Without a doubt, some porn stars have contracted and died of AIDS. I don't think the numbers are high, compared to the total number of participants in porn. And it may not be PC to say, but the majority of the AIDS victims have been males who worked in the gay and bi- side of the industry.

I would agree with you that escort volume is higher than porn - I would think most female porn stars do a few hundred scenes in their careers. I would guess an escort will beat that in a year or two at most.

To answer your points about testing - perhaps testing of potential clients SHOULD be a part of an escorts toolkit. As it stands now, escorts don't test their clients, so someone with HIV/AIDs could very well be your next client. And your only protection is a thin piece of latex... In my dream world, escorts would require up-to-date tests from their clients.

And in my dream world, once we all have up-to-date tests, there's no reason not to let clients go bareback.

Famke, I notice that you and I often debate on these boards. One day we are going to have to get together and work out our differences another way (wink, wink).

Or how about when he gets her pregnant and has to pay for child support.

Rocco Siffredi had a quote years ago [paraphrasing] "let me tell you a little secret, everybody in the porn business has herpes.  Its the least you can get in this industry."

I believed him at the time.  I just assumed that Herpes, both type 1 and 2, was fairly common among pornstars, rock musicians, and generally people who sex with partners over a prolonged period.

I don't know you if you can get around the risk, no matter how you rationalize it.  I don't know if Herpes is a disease escorts regularly test for, or if a positive result means the end of a career.  Forgive my ignorance, but I really don't know if its considered a big enough deal to end a career over or not.

HIV, on the other hand, strikes me as a negligible risk, at least for males using protection.  There are some excellent statistical breakdowns done by the Center for Disease Control in NYC, available online.  I encourage anyone interested to google them.    

I have always assumed that most escorts get herpes eventually, if they stay in the business long enough. Management of the condition is possible -- outbreaks subside after a period -- so it doesn't need to end a career.