So the thing I’m having a problem with nowadays is screening guys seem like they don’t want to be a part of any reviews sites they don’t want to send any pictures or verify themselves in any type of way .
Some want FaceTime verification or Google Duo. I feel like customers are trying to get free looks because I have FaceTime people and then they don’t show up and it’s my pictures so it’s just confusing.
Also I feel like I ask a lot for information when screening and most of My upscale clients send it back but I also feel like I make less money because I am this way but I like to take less risk… some people think I’m a cop because I ask so much
Am I the only one having these type of problems? What’s the screening process. I need girls and guys to respond.
I understand why people want to screen. However, in this age of ID theft, etc. I will never provide the personal information that most providers ask. Copies of DL, work info, etc -- no way. I think that my reviews, and references from other providers should be adequate.
As a Client in the hobby for several years, I use a reputable verification, Preferred411. I was a little nervous about supplying my information over 10 years ago, but it has been well worth the effort. Also, the companions who rely upon the service, are of a higher quality (generally) and appreciate the discretion and reliability.
AAdonis…you mention P411 but I’m hearing they are no longer considered credible or safe because the knowingly working with LE and FBI. I’ve read specifics on many sites.
It’s definitely a conversation piece. I’ve been on 411 since 2007, and TER since 2005. It’s certainly much more complex these days. I’m not quite sure what to think about any of it.
Why would the FBI be involved in a Canadian company?
When and where did you hear this about P411. It is true or just hearsay? Please cite your sources
I only ask this because I hear this about almost every site out there.
I'm also not saying that you're wrong. I just want to know for sure what I'm dealing with.
Thanks!
I am no longer on P411 that site does not screen for your safety. I do not require references & love to do my own verification. As a single Mom my safety is my #1 priority. I see guys state they, do not supply real life information, or ID & I don’t understand how if your last review is several years old, and so are your references a lot can change over the years.
There are many ways to screen potential clients, but without real life information there is no way to be certain he is who he says he is & if something bad happens how can you blame anyone, but yourself for not doing your due diligence. Screening is also a chemistry check for me it allows me to see if we maybe compatible. In PO forum ladies share sites they utilize.
Right on. Cool. Thanks for the info or shall I say 411?? Lol
Thanks doll
Betty 💋
I recently wanted to verify with a provider on AdultSearch and suggested swapping pics holding up each other's phone number. She didn't want to go for that and said it was a ridiculous idea. And also didn't want a meeting in a public place like a restaurant for a paid for casual lunch meeting just to become acquainted. No reviews for said provider here in TER, either, and I smelled a rat and decided she was not the right person for me. instincts spot on or is this usual behavior?
I realize this is an old thread but really wanted to address the whole meeting in a public space for screening.
Meeting you in person before you are screened completely negates the reason we screen. A public place is no guarantee of our safety. People get abducted and hurt in public spaces during the day all the time. They may not get away with it but that does me zero good if I'm dead or just been violently raped by 20 lumberjacks and moby dicks.
Also in regards to a selfie or FaceTime, none of that tells us anything except you exist and know how to take pics of yourself and can video chat. Assuming you're not part of a sex trafficking ring and someone else is holding your phone.
Not to mention the men who get off on receiving photos just for THEM, or seeing a live woman speaking to THEM on their phone or PC. That's sexual harassment in my opinion. Being manipulated into providing sexual gratification without my consent is not something I'm interested in doing.
These are the reasons I bristle at the suggestion of a video call or in person meet & greet. And I don't send photos period. Even before I was reviewed.
If u don't have provider references then do your research on the provider you would like to see so that you do feel comfortable sending a link to your LinkedIn page or your ID with a selfie or whatever top secret information they request.
However, I wouldn't share your SSN, name of your first pet, or the city you lived in when you got your first job though. That is a red flag.
I even offer a piece of mail or ID with everything blocked out but first name and photo. For the piece of mail i offer to let them block out everything but name and logo (so it's not junk mail). Like, wtf do you think i'm going to do with that info? I can't steal your identity with it and I'm already verified by license on the sites i post on.
The most infuriating thing is that so many clients don't think they should have to educate themselves as i go broke trying to stay alive and in one piece. Smdh idk what to do to realistically make money and protect myself at the same time
I'm new to this. But are you obtaining a selfie verification ? I make them take it now and follow an instruction. I have never had an issue with only using the selfie. I provide an instruction or a code for them to write on paper. I explain to then inonly wizh to hold onto it during our time together for my safety. That if someone wanted to harm.me they wouldn't want me to have a photo of their face.
If doing what makes her "feel safe" is a level of screening that you would not be comfortable with, maybe she should do more. Maybe she should approach other ladies here about their screening techniques?
How about asking fellow SWs to refer you to their known and safe customers, i.e. regulars? Some may not want to do this for competitive reasons. If they are already established it shouldn't be a problem.
I think P411 is worthwhile, despite its detractors. If a prospective client has 4 recent "likes", ask if you can contact them for references.
The whole thing, obviously, is not risk free, but you can, and should, do what you can to reduce risk.
In short, I suggest that your goal is to develop a group of trusted clients, and providers who can refer people to you.
Chatting with experienced providers on this site is worthwhile. I personally follow Queen Bia, Hollyday and Ms. Scarlet.
Good luck!