Is to find a well reviewed lady, and allow her to screen you properly. You can always join a site like room service 2000, that will allow discreet screening by the ladies.  Safety is important on both sides of the equation.  Sticking with well reviewed, established ladies would be your best bet.

There is no being 100% safe in this hobby.  Being knowledgeable is critical to minimizing risk.
It appears you've at least read a little.  Read the entire Newbie manual at the top of this section.  Read back several pages on this board, a a couple on the others.
Know about hobby phones, secure e-mail, 2 call system, placing the donation, what to say & not say when calling.  How to approach a location.  No one can make you learn but it is vital to your future happiness.  I was lucky when I started but luck is not to be counted on!
Then get VIP.  Read the reviews for ladies you're interested in meeting.  Check that there are several reviews & the reviewers have reviewed several ladies.  (TER prohibits self reviews but there maybe some that try.)

Once you have done so,
you'll be ready for adventure.
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