what is the proper procedure if I have a great time and decide I want to give a provider a tip on top of her fee? If I have already left the envelope with the fee in it on a table or something, how do I go about giving her the money?

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You can just thank her and tell her you had a great time while putting the tip on a table.

Is it ok to discreetly put it in her hand as you are saying good bye??  I've done this and it doesn't seem awkward.......

Just after our parting hug and kiss.

It has always served me well.

The above are accurate.  Keep in mind, the best tip is to schedule another appointment with the lady.

A few months ago, I had a lovely gent tuck three $50 bills into my hand as I was leaving his hotel room. Because I was already in the hallway, I slipped them in my bag and didn't look at them until I was in my car. "Wow- great-- $150!" I thought to myself.

A few days later, I did another outcall to the same hotel. The gent I saw there smiled as he tucked a few bills into my purse as I walking out. I saw them in his hand as he moved it to my bag and saw a "5" on the bills. "Man" I thought, "I'm lucking out this week.. another 100 bucks or so."

When I got to my car, I saw it was two $5 bills.

Oh well... it paid for the parking!

I'm a newbie, and I"m seeing a provider for the first time tomorrow. What if I bring a gift for her(flowers, a bottle of wine, a gift card, etc)? When would I give that to her?

and the best time is right after you settle the business ($) aspect of the visit.

They will be very delighted if your experience is anything like I have found.

How thoughtful and gentlemanly!  I would be absolutely delighted to receive any gift from a client.  Hasn't happened yet.  Of course, I always do my very best to please and pamper, but let's be honest - a little token of appreciation makes any woman feel good, and that emotional boost translates into, well, more "energetic"  interaction with the gentleman bearing the gift.

Hey Mr. Fisher, when I started hobbying last November, I recall you posting about taking a small gift on a first date. So, I did (lotion, bubble bath, etc). They all liked it but I honestly came to believe that I didn't get any better service because of it. No "bang for the buck", so to speak. I switched to a bottle of wine and found that a lot of providers wouldn't drink it so that idea went away. Now I don't take anything on a first date but if she is really special and we keep seeing each other, then it is a pleasure to occassionally give really nice gifts and they are truly appreciated.  

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of some sort...usually flowers or chocolates.  Of course, that depends on where the location is as flowers (for example) may draw unnecesary attention.  Also check out the lady's web site to see if she has any preferences on gift ideas.  I have also given a cash tip, usually just folded and placed discreetly in their hand as I kiss her good night.

I always bring a gift.  Candles.  Inexpensive sets can be bought at Wal-Mart, or probably at Target, or K-Mart.  Have yet to have a provider not like them.

Swim

Having something to give her at the beginning of the session, other than an envelope, makes a great ice-breaker!

Read through her site, many have a gift wish list. Most of these will include a number of inexpensive options, that will show didn't only look at the pictures.