Tried posting this on the Erotic Highway but no luck. Wondering if anyone has any thoughts/advice on seeing a provider as a way of breaking a so-called "dry spell." For a variety of reasons, including the end of a long and serious relationship and an intense focus on career advancement, I have not had sex in nearly 4 years. I'm not kidding. Had one very intense and unexpected sexual encounter a year ago, it didn't go "all the way."

So, I've become interested in the hobby. As a way of restoring my confidence. And also because I'm just too damn busy to date! Little bit nervous, but mostly excited. Advice?

Thanks.

I discovered in my mid twenties that seeing provider(s) shortly after the end of a civvie relationship would take the "edge" off the feelings of disenfranchisement so commonly felt at that time. In addition; Women have a sixth sense when it comes to a man's "need" level. If you're not getting "any" a woman can smell it a hundred feet away and they don't want to be the one to give it to you. However; if you walk into a social situation 'freshly fucked' every broad in the room will sense it, and deem it their personal mission to prove that they can fuck you better.

i too got into the hobby after a long term relationship....six years later i'm still hobbying simply because with work and everything its just easier.

And that's a cosmic truth, dude

If this is something that interests you just do your research and go for it!
Speaking as a woman; neediness never meant anything to me.  If I wanted to have a man I'd take him.

I don't have a girlfriend right now, so I'm not only seeing a provider to "break the dry spell", but just as importantly to me, I am looking forward to the companionship. I've noticed that several guys on the discussion boards value the "non-intimate" interaction just as much as the intimate interactions.