Hey guys, I live in MA and I'm about to make my first date with a provider. There are a few things I'm nervous about and was hoping someone could give me some clarity.
1) Pre-screening: I'm VERY nervous about giving my license info to someone/agency. Not even because I don't trust them, but if what if they were to get hacked/raided, etc. Am I too paranoid? Also, I will have no "references" as this would be my first date. 2) Price: I was hoping to find someone I could see regularly, but most of the providers I like are $600-$1000/hr! I definitely get paying for quality, but that was higher than I expected. I can't do that 2ce/mo. 3) My looks: I'm 43 and while I'm not a troll, I'm also not attractive. I think the thing I'm looking forward to the most is finding someone who's personality can make me feel like she might actually not hate having to touch me, lol! Is this something I can/should mention to the provider or her service upfront? Thanks so much for any thoughts or suggestions from the more experienced members or providers! 😀1) If you are not comfortable sharing PI (personal information), ID, License, etc. then move on to another Provider. Once your -- or anyone's -- info is "out there" it cannot be taken back. See the General Board for some recent examples.
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2) If nervousness is an issue, you might want to risk less $ for your first encounter. If it's not great, decide if it was your nerves or her lack of skills or failing to meet your expectations (based on reviews). If you DO have a good time, then GREAT!! You can see her again or move up in $ knowing that you've conquered your nervousness.
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3) A good Provider will not care about your looks ... or at least not SHOW it! Some clients who have specific issues (extreme obesity, club foot, facial scar, etc.) might bring it up BEFORE a meeting to make sure his hostess is OK with the issue or can even plan for it. When you walk down the street, do people run away or cross the street or point and stare? Do small children cry when you get too close? If not, you are probably normal and don't need to bring it up ahead of time.
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Hey guys, I live in MA and I'm about to make my first date with a provider. There are a few things I'm nervous about and was hoping someone could give me some clarity.
1) Pre-screening: I'm VERY nervous about giving my license info to someone/agency. Not even because I don't trust them, but if what if they were to get hacked/raided, etc. Am I too paranoid? Also, I will have no "references" as this would be my first date.
2) Price: I was hoping to find someone I could see regularly, but most of the providers I like are $600-$1000/hr! I definitely get paying for quality, but that was higher than I expected. I can't do that 2ce/mo.
3) My looks: I'm 43 and while I'm not a troll, I'm also not attractive. I think the thing I'm looking forward to the most is finding someone who's personality can make me feel like she might actually not hate having to touch me, lol! Is this something I can/should mention to the provider or her service upfront?
Thanks so much for any thoughts or suggestions from the more experienced members or providers! 😀
Given you're in MA Montreal is not that far away for you. You might consider a trip north. You'll find a lot of good providers and for less than you list in your post.
Plus, Canada is much more tolerant of consensual pay-for-play (P4P).
then I would be worried about you! Lol
MOST reputable ladies are going to REQUIRE RWI (Real World Information) meaning probably your license, selfie and LinkedIn or something to that effect. My Screener allows gents to cover up their address and ID number for their discretion. If you're not willing to do that, really your only other option is to join a screening site such as P411 or go to like a massage/happy ending spa.
If a lady doesn't require screening as above, that's a major red flag.
Second, the majority of ladies require a deposit these days. I personally do not because most of my visits are with regular friends but MOST ladies do. If you can't use Cashapp or one of the other apps, some will accept a picture of an Amazon card or other gift card, which you can usually buy at your local grocery store.
Ok, to your third point, price...there are tons of ladies in the $300-$400 range if you do a search in your area.
Fourth point...your appearance...so I was out to dinner with 4 of my Provider friends and we were talking about this very subject because a fifth gf is thinking of joining up with us. ALL of us told her... "You're going to get all types, sizes and ages, etc. Our goal is to meet with someone who is a genuinely nice guy and help him feel loved in that moment, no strings attached." And I can personally say for myself, if I see a genuine smile on your face, I'm happy with that. And I want to be able to say "Good job, Ginger." And I feel MOST ladies feel this way.
Happy hunting, GT
Thank you to all who posted on this thread (including the op). This answered most of my questions as I am a newbie also.
Excited for your first experience!
1) Twitter profile+legitimate website is a great way to verify someone is legitimate. Also, higher end providers are far less likely to be 'raided'. In all my years, I've never seen this happen.
2) A lot of what you're paying for is professionalism and risk mitigation. Higher end girls are more like to show up(on time) and less likely to be any issue. I'm sure there is a mid range you can find.
3) Appearance is only a very small fraction of what creates attraction for me. Consistency, kindness, and respect trump physical appearance. As long as you're a freshly showered gentlemen she will likely be quite happy to meet you.