Posted By: numpty88
That'll help prevent you from getting fixated on the one who popped your cherry, and keeps you from getting clingy.
But the tip about a massage parlor is likely the best one so far, it'll aid you in relaxing in front of a woman whose aim is to make you feel comfortable but also does so in a way that's not as intimate. Much less risk of an attachment.
Thank for the tip, especially the second one. That's pretty much what I'm trying to get out of this, the confidence and being nice and calm around a woman.
Posted By: keystonekid
you can find a newbie friendly provider. At your age, you will need to act like a mature adult and be able to convice providers that they should see you.
In real life I am mature. But I'm not sure if writing it on the internet is good enough because anyone can do it. If I ever meet face to face or on the phone with a provider I will have no problem being mature, though I will most likely be nervous since the provider will most likely be very attractive and knowing the fact that she may be my first might cause me to get nervous but I doubt it will impact me being mature.
Posted By: cocktail-party
As long as you're compliant with their screening process and do not exhibit any dangerous or immature behavior, most agencies will be more accommodating than indy ladies in getting you started (after all, their bottom line is dependent on appointment volume). I'm of the opinion that you should NOT disclose your virginity. Once your in the door, just tell her that you're nervous because you're brand new to the hobby and not very sexually experienced. Then, let her take the lead. Once you've done it, you'll realize that there's really not much to it (both P4P and sex in general). Good luck!
I'm not sure where I can find AMP in my area and I try to avoid backpage. The only reason I tell providers is so that they know what to expect, and I can't really lie because I don't want to ruin any chances in the near future if I ever decide to do this again.
Posted By: MaxHollywood
First thing, the providers job is to make YOU feel good. Not the other way around. Since you already stated you are a virgin, if you see a provider let her do the work to make you feel good. You don't really know what you are doing your first time so leave it to the professional. You will have a much better first experience this way.
Secondly join a site that can verify all your personal information. P411 is popular and when you are verified you can search on that site for providers that are newbie friendly. Check with those providers about possibly setting up an appointment.
Lastly only give out information that the provider specifically asks for and no more.
PS- The reason providers prefer older guys is because they are more likely to have the available funds (and be more serious) for an appointment.
PSS- If the main reason you are wanting to use a provider for your first time is to make her feel good and to hell with your first lay and you are willing to pay for that then you really and I mean really need to rethink why you want to see a provider. Seriously. Give it much more thought.
I know it's there job to make me feel good but since it's my first time they will most likely not have fun for the first 20 or so seconds based on what I've read about your first time. Which is why I want to please them. The reason I am willing to pay a provider is because I want to experience being with a woman, I've had girlfriends before but all we did was kiss and hug and my appearance isn't the problem but for some reason now I just get randomly "excited" when I talk with a girl in college and I don't think it's really my fault. If you see what they wear at school I think it would be easy to see why. Which is why I probably didn't have this problem before. I'm hoping by doing this that "excitement" goes away by being with a all around better woman, or at least go down a bit so I can talk to girls again.
Posted By: JuliasLittleSecret
I may know a lady in NYC who will see you.
Thank you, I did.