I am in a committed LTR where the sex and intimacy have evolved down to companionship. I have tried to generate and maintain "affairs" with those that accept my situation, but it always leads to heartache and grief. Having said that, I am very interested in the hobbyist/provider relationship, but know nothing about the criteria. From what I have read here and other places, the provider will want:references, work e mail, etc. I am in a career that CANNOT cross paths in any way shape or form with this kind of hobby. Period. So giving any work info is out of the question. I have no references, beacuse I have never done this. How does one in my situation begin? How can you tell what providers are legit?
Also, I am interested in the sensual massage, tantric, etc. How can they advertise touching and perks? Is that legal? ANY advise or direction would be very appreciated. I am in the San Diego area.
Search the provider reviews on the top of this page. If a lady has 10+ really good reviews (8s,9s, & 10s) she will be ligit. You will want a lady that will screen you, if she does not screen you, she won't screen anyone. That will put you in danger, if she gets busted, you could go down.
No one on here wants this hobby to cross their career. That said, a quality lady will be very discreet in the dreaded business phone call. She is not going to tell your Admin her real reason for calling you. You can set up a cover for the call, make it a logical call your expecting. Do not us a business contact, us a personal contact, "hi I'm calling from Dr, Xxxx office re John Does dental appointment." It is personal, all she wants to do is talk to you through your business phone number. That will help confirm you're really you.
Review some of the older posts, on this board.
Thanks for the guidance...This is the delicate part...I am afraid once the provider finds out my line of work, she won't want to see me. The frustrating part is, I am legit. I know once that is know, I will be accepted. Any suggestions?
This just prompted a question in my mind. When the screening lady calls the work phone number, is she just trying to make sure that you actually work there or is she trying to talk to you at your work number? What about somebody like me who is only in his office one or two days a month? Is the idea to set up the cover for the call at a time when you are actually there?
as for security, you are better off seeing a provider who does want to screen than one who doesn't.
As for the legality of tantra providers, if there is any sexual contact, then yes, that is illegal.
I would join date-check or P411. R2sk is popular also but I am not a member. They will verify your employer and they are a third party person-so your fear of a provider knowing where you actual work is gone.
Ironhorse, I think this hobby is way too risky for someone in your position. I would suggest stamp collecting (lot's of licking), but no verifiable references required.
Gee, thanks rentagirl for the support and suggestions...
Ironhorse I am sorry, and I was being an ass. Everyone has to evaluate their risk here and then proceed with caution. TER greatly simplifies this process, but there is still risk involved. I guess what bothered me was you elluding to having affairs in the past but worrying now about giving your real name and personal information to well reviewed providers here. The ladies here are professionals are not interested in gettting involved with us or in hurting us by being indiscreet.
If you want to pay to play here, you have to give up the required information, the more comfortable you can make the lady before hand, the better time you will have during the encounter.
Jim