Those adult dating sites have can have as much as a 100 to 1 male to female ratio, although most have less than that.  Like a well-known Beatles song goes, let it be.  The odds of good results from using that site aren't high.  TER is much better.

Earlier in the month Livie posted some sample emails (see link below). I've had good luck using them. Since its your first time, simple say so and include where you work and your work phone number. Most providers will ask for this info if you don't have references so its best to just offer it up front (shows good faith on your part). They will use this to verify that you aren't LE. A well reviewed provider has no interest in causing you trouble where you work (bad for her business). Giving up some privacy is part of the price we hobbyists have to pay. Feel free to PM me if you have other questions, I'm still basically a newbie (saw my 3rd lady this noon) so I can offer some perspective if needed.

Second:  Read all you can on the hobby before you contact a provider.  The best place to start is with the Newbie Manual on the top of this board.

When you have done your research and know whom you would like to contact, write an email along these lines:

"Hi,

My name is XXXX XXXX, also known as usc-racer on TER.  I am new at this and do not have any reference yet, but I have read up on the hobby and I am very interested in meeting you.

Here is some personal information on me so that you might check me out:

Home address and phone
cell phone
Work place name and number

I am X years old, weight X pounds, measure X high and am (fill in race and religion).

I am interested in seeing you for an X hour session on (date and time) at (incall or give an outcall location, not your home)

I can be flexible regarding these dates and times if needs be.

I look forward to hearing from you."

Note the abundance of personal information.  This is necessary to make the point to her that you are on the level and are not a game player.  Same deal on setting up a session on a specific date and time.  Many providers ignore any request without that information.

Alas, some providers are very strict about not seeing someone without references, but there are those who will.  Just be sure that they are well reviewed gals.  Usually, the more experienced gals feel better about seeing a first timer.

Also, and this is very important:  Read the gals site top to bottom, several times over in fact, and comply with any requirements she might have for screening and contacting.

Finally, become a VIP member of TER so that you will know what type of sexual activites to expect with any particular gal.  Note how the template above mentions nothing of sexual activity.  To bring that up in any communication is a sure way to be cut off for good.

I hope this helps and best of luck.