I've noticed that many hobbyists will stop communicating with a provider if she asks him to go through screening. Why is this a problem? (I'm new) isn't this protocol. Are reputable providers really meeting with hobbyists who won't even tell them a name?

My safety comes first.  
What's going on?

But I don't know any monger who refuses to go through screening, which protects not only the girl but the monger.  What many mongers will NOT do is provide their real name or other personal information.  But there are many ways to screen without divulging that info.

I go by my real name so no one has ever asked me for a name.

If you really need a reference I can get you one or two but most people don't ask me for them. With 5 White List and 8 OK's. Most people pass me thru based off my merits.  
 
Last girl told me she read one of my reviews and knew I was fine. Everyone does screening definitely.

Best advise I can give go with your gut.

Welcome to the jungle.  
Zak

nice.  You should not pretend to be Jake when we can tell by the polite response that its not really Jake.

How do you screen without that information when they don't even respond after you ask for their screening. Some stop all communication without giving a broad handle or references...

White lists and OKs are acceptable. It's just weird that some stop communication because I ask for screening.  

END OF MESSAGE

You should not be giving advise to anyone.  Seriously.

It's a great strategy to show them you're serious that you mean bidniz

People will catch on over time. I keep a record of ppl in my "inquiry - no response" folder, so if they email again requesting, my auto-reply just sends them to my form, and I don't have to worry about it.

Not everybody will screen, but some may say "hmm.. maybe I will do it for her just so I can see her."

I've had guys do that - and guys who didn't. Guys who considered my need for feeling safe most of them are still seeing me, so it kind of attracts the regulars too if you screen really good. The others? to me, they don't even exist. (Psst... auto replies are good if those inquiries get too frequent, and it starts to burn you out. Happened to me, and I started getting a negative attitude, stressed, and I don't need unnecessary stress. So my auto reply takes care of that communication.)

P.S. If they beg, you have already said "no" - no need to answer them. They will just talk to themselves in your inbox, and then will get the point.

-- Modified on 5/26/2016 10:44:06 PM

as his circle of influence is most likely a very small percentage of the population.

Guys who don't divulge their real info for us to research enough to know we're not going to get our necks snapped are able to go to the police with no stigma. WE on the other hand, will not get the help a monger will.


-- Modified on 5/26/2016 10:52:11 PM

And to think most of us just thought you were a asshole ...

Yet you choose to hide behind an alias. Your a wuss.  

Yes, This explains a lot about Jake's posts.  Lol

he shows up for the session, you should not let him in.

END OF MESSAGE

I ONLY post as Jake.  My handle will NEVER post.  I have my reasons. So what difference does it make? Is your name really Zak?  Or is it Tubbo?  Stop playing childish games.

Really, yoga pants are just the best. Should be required garb for all hot chicks. And of course verboten for those of the wrong body types.

My dear, common sense tells you that if someone abruptly cuts off communication for Any reason, that's a bad sign.  

As to whether you will require real names or be satisfied with references or whitelists, p411 etc. only, is up to you, your financial circumstances, and the kind of demand you can generate.

END OF MESSAGE

-- Modified on 5/27/2016 12:14:34 AM

that "you don't know any monger who refusing screening". So, if you don't know something, maybe better not to say anything ay all? I know such mongers. And a girl is worried and confused by the fact that she was told that screening is a normal protocol and she hoped that all bobbyists follow this suite, but it seems not all. At the end you are throwing something childish  " you are drunk". What's going on your farm? Animals were reading Orwell?

END OF MESSAGE

Obviously, some mongers are stupid enough to refuse all screening, but if you've been on these boards much at all (and it seems you have not been) most of the male posters here understand that screening makes things safer for all and are willing to undergo it.  That seems so obvious to me I'm amazed you thin differently.  The OP seems to have encountered a few who completely refused screening and, if so, is probably marketing herself to the wrong people.
Now please relax.

END OF MESSAGE

And I expect you to support my right to decline to give it, even if that means not seeing you.  I think most guys feel the same way.  If my P411 info and OKs, plus additional references, are not enough for you, I will happily move on.  But I've seen lots of women and have yet to be declined.  That's got to tell you something.

I do believe you missed my point completely. I ask for screening. It's up to them to provide it. If they don't want to give me their full name then please provide me with references, screen names, any verifiable information. But to just end all communication once I ask for screening is crazy to me.  

A one-man circle jerk LOL

So I'm wondering if you're in flat mode, not tree mode, which can lead to confusion. Second, if you've read all my posts on this thread and still think I missed your point, I'd say you have a reading comprehension issue.
Bottom line: if a lot of guys refuse to give you screening info, I think you need to look at your marketing because you are attracting bottom feeders.
Where do you advertise?

Maybe you should look inward for your answers instead of blaming the guys?

There are thousands of hookers here who seem to have no problem at all getting guys to go through screening. This is the same advice as I give to guys who can't seem to get a return call from the ladies, if it is happening to YOU over and over, but not happening to other guys/girls, then it must be something YOU are doing wrong if the system works for everybody else.

Maybe if you linked your reviews, website or ad/s we might be able to give you more helpful advice, or maybe you don't really want advice and are simply here to whine?

-- Modified on 5/27/2016 5:45:45 AM

Make it very clear in every ad and on your website that you require screening, and what information you need. Those who don't want to submit screening info will generally not contact you in the first place. No wasted time for him, no wasted time for you

looking for a pen pal not a companion. And yes, some just don't want to give you the information you need to verify the guy and they don't have the manners to send you a brief email that says "I'm going to have to pass".

Ignore them if they don't provide the info you request with their initial or 2nd attempt to contact you. While most men understand this simple concept here...you'll find many men still do not. Even seasoned hobbyists. I've stopped trying to figure it out and only spare my time who truly understand how this game is "really" played.  

If they are joshin you out if the gate...who knows what they will do past that point. Don't let it bother you, there are plenty of good fish in the sea here, just keep that line inn the water a lil longer until those kind of fish bite. Those are the only one's you want biting.

They seem to be ignoring her, not the other way around

btw, are you a woman here too now?

Her words

"I've noticed that many hobbyists will stop communicating with a provider if she asks him to go through screening."

That sure doesn't sound like they are sticking around to waste her time, now does it?

I was hoping the new Taylor would start reading posts, unlike BSC Taylor who only skimmed them.

What do you have against Khakis?

I was a lot more nervous on my first provider visit than I was the night I actually lost my virginity.  The poor lady had to practically remind me how things were done.  Fortunately, I was very lucky in my choice of newbie-friendly firsts!