I am a relative newbie who has had totally positive experiences with some great providers in recent months. However, twice I have arrived for a first meeting and found that the provider’s photos seem way out of date. Yes, that is the person whom I saw on the website, but she seems quite a few years older than in the photos. Looking back through the TER reviews, I rarely see comments about this issue. So I wonder, is posting out-of-date photos just a fairly common practice that I need to get used to? Or are there acceptable ways to address this issue? Do providers consider it offensive or insulting if a client asks before they first meet, “How old are the photos on your website?” If a client feels at the beginning of a date that he would prefer not to go forward, is it acceptable to say so in a tactful way and contribute a portion rather than the whole amount of the donation? I have not taken either of these steps myself, nor have I posted negative reviews, and I would not consider doing so in my current state of ignorance. But on the other hand I would also like to learn if there are acceptable ways that I can avoid or deal with situations where I feel slightly ripped off. I would appreciate hearing the thoughts of experienced clients and providers.

Many, many girls here lie about there age. They have a fear that admitting their real age will hurt there biz. Many guys will not call them out on it in a review but will own up to it by pm.

If you don't have VIP here, get it. It will allow you to pm the gals reviewers and generally they will be much more truthful outside of the public spotlight so to speak.

Thanks for your helpful response! Can a client be blacklisted on TER? Where on the website can I learn more about that?

It's about being scared the girl could cause a scene in the hotel, embarrass them on the boards, hurt their rep, etc.

Even as you say, giving her a few bucks might reduce the risk of being BL, it doesn't eliminate it. Plus many guys here give up their real name and employer info so it's MUCH more difficult to walk away when the door opens then you are letting on.

And with photos now routinely being photoshopped, having photo dates really doesn't help.  

And please don't blame the guys for girls using deceptive business practices. Professionals shouldnt need a scape goat. You are making an excuse for people to act unethically and that is just flat out wrong.

SOME women MIGHT not use b.s. pics if the guys walked away more, many still would continue to do so. Let's be honest about that.

And you blamed the guys for girls using bogus pictures. That's textbook excuse making. There is NEVER an excuse for anyone to deal in deceptive business practices. EVER.

You think otherwise. We disagree

I must have the wrong room.  Are you "make up a  different name"?  Guy looks a phone and says "I see what I did, I have the wrong room.  I am even on the wrong floor."

Great idea Julia. Thanks once again for looking out for newbie guys here.

if you stay you have nothing to bitch about. If you stay, it is now on you.  

You can leave and make sure you let the lady in question know that she is NOT a true representation of her her images. And you are not going to be duped into staying.

they deserve nothing for misrepresenting themselves.

In fact she stood up for them. She mentioned they should give a few bucks but that's about it. I don;t see where she is supporting the B&S.

Sure plenty of women will still use old images etc. but Julia was not supporting this. If more guys walked away then there would be fewer...now it should not be the case but it is. And the more guys stay, the more the hookers that do this gain a hold.

Not everything is perfect in this fucked up world of us versus them. Same goes for hookers that won't play the asshole hobbyists game...and they get outed and such. It is a risk and if you play, well, accept the risk versus the reward.

And while I am at it, more ladies get roughed up than a trick ever does and with fake ass board names and anonymity, they get away with it

I do see your point Jack.
It is very easy to tell guys, "just walk away."
In practice, in addition to what you've said, a guy may also have a moment of doubt about his own judgement re "is this the girl in the photos?" after he's walked in the room.
The last thing I'd want is to be wrong about that and to have walked away (which could damage my own reputation).
Also, there is clearly an element of blaming the victim here.
Sure, if all guys made the perfect instant snap decision and walked away, it would discourage the use of others' photos, etc., but that is thinking of this in an idealized simplified manner I think.
The women who do not represent themselves accurately in photos are wrong, PERIOD, and guys are in no way to blame for this, IMO.

That was the one argument I had with JLS' post

you need to do better research, but if for some reason you are surprised by what is behind the door, you have every right (and you should) to excuse yourself and walk away.  Now, some drama may ensue, but if you've taken the other precautions that you should have, it will pass quickly and you'll have helped by not rewarding bad behavior.

why not post a review and when you get to the part that says photos say something there, or...say you think her pics are outdated? I mean you don't have to slay her just mention it.

I don't have dates on my photos but I will gladly tell anyone when they were taken. And yes mine are professionally edited but I use different photographers to give a better idea of what I look like.

You are a newb, but that doesn't mean you should be afraid to write what you feel. Also before booking a date with a lady you can PM some of her recent reviewers. You MAY get some insight that way.

Just my take on it.

Steph xoxo

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I would certainly mention in a review if the photos seemed out of date.
Comparison of the lady in-person to the photos is one of the critical elements of a review IMO.
The thing is, she is only setting herself up for poor appearance scores when she misleads with old photos.
Also, I would think a lady would hate to consistently read the dissappointment on guys faces as they entered the room to find her 10 years and 20 lbs away from her photos.

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