Providers don't want to discuss specifics (bbbj, cim, greek, etc) on phone or email. Thus how does one inquire before meeting aprovider with no reviews on TER? Should I assume that GFE=DFK & bbj or that PSE = anal/greek.
Without reviews all you should assume is that you're TakingOneForTheTeam (TOFTT).
but sometimes you can use certain codes and hope that she understands and is open about it.
For example, you can ask her how she feels about oral pleasure, or what languages she speaks.
By being very non-specific and general you may be able to learn something of interest.
to TER so you can read the entire reviews. Read the reviews and if several reviews say she does "x" then it should be on the menu. As a VIP you can also PM other hobbyists to get more info. Enjoy.
Thanks for the advice. I'll try asking about "languages" and if worse comes to worse, I'll take one for the team and report it. Even a bad expereince is good sometimes. Eventhough I've been a VIP member for months, that has always been a tricky aspect.
Cheers
The advice you were give is pretty good.
---assume nothing, ever.
---become a VIP and check reviews
One note to contacting other hobbyists and being a VIP. Just because something was done with one person, it does not guarantee it will be done with you. Checking with the lady is always best.
Now I disagree with Mr. Fisher on asking about languages and using codes. If a complete stranger emails or calls me asking such questions, I'm not answering it.
If a gentleman wants answers to these questions, some women will answer them once she has checked his references or verified him in other ways. Once verified we feel more comfortable answering such questions. But even then please remember to be polite, respectful and tactful. Crudeness is always to be avoided.
It is best not to mention anything lest you scare off the provider.
Only if you feel it is absolutely necessary to ask, then use the code words but remember to be as tastefull as you can.
Indeed, I will not answer such questions even in code. One reason being legal- most obvious. I would never ever promise any such thing to a new client because that is illegal and also, to me, very rude and coarse to discuss while setting a date. Also, I cannot and will not say I "do" or "don't do" something as this in effect makes said gentleman expect it. Cliche, I know, but you really are paying for my time. I cannot commit to any specific sex acts before meeting someone. For example- BBBJ. I may do this with a majority of people I see, but it is never promised or contracted for. Why? Because if you are unclean (and ignore my gently asking if you'd like to use the shower, or don't wash thoroughly in the shower) or if there is any question about your reproductive health (sores or other unhealthy symptoms), or if you make me feel uncomfortable and things really aren't going well- these are all things which you cannot know until you get to the session and get naked with one another. Some ladies will answer you, but the more discreet and upscale ones will have nothing to do with such language or discussion, IMHO.
XoXo,
Marea
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Why ask about specific acts? Most ladies won't respond and there is no guarantee anyway. Expectations can put a real damper on a date.
Why not just enjoy your time with the lady? I never approach a date with specific expectations. Women are such fun to be with and they are all wonderfully different!
As for specific acts, I sit here typing this thinking back over the years trying to remember when I did not have an enjoyable time making love to a woman. (I can't think of one). I saw a particular lady not long ago. We clicked. We made love more than once. I can't remember specifically what we did or in what order. It was wonderfully fun because we just played together and did whatever just seemed natural next.
What happens will happen depending upon the chemistry between the two of you. If the two of you click, who knows what will happen?
Since when did Mr Rogers become a hobbyist?