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Lexiplexi See my TER Reviews 1554 reads
posted
1 / 20

Not sure if this is the appropriate place to post this, there was a section in the TER manual that covered GFE, I still have a question...
A few times recently I've been asked if I provided GFE, and under the general idea I was given by the manual I assumed yes. When I was asked a little more detail it seems a good majority of the people that have asked me consider BBFS to be part of GFE, I was kind of under the impression that was kind of it's own entity? What is the popular consensus on GFE involving BBFS?  

Thanks!
xoxo,
Lexi

anomy08513 58 Reviews 680 reads
posted
2 / 20

Most hobbyists consider GFE to include kissing, daty and bbbj.  BBFS should NEVER be an option.  Myself and others I know, when they see someone put that experience in a review will totally remove the provider he saw from our wishlist.  Its just not a good look.

ROGM 526 reads
posted
3 / 20

It's just a notch below BBFS. GFE is pretty much acting like a Real Girlfriend. Kissing, BBBJ (BJ without a cover), Hugging, Cuddling. Although I've had BBFS with providers stating GFE in their ads. But this is after seeing her on a regular ongoing basis.

RatioScripta 163 Reviews 499 reads
posted
4 / 20

I'd pretty much agree wiith SF and ROGM, GFE is a bit of an amorphous term and certainly subject to different interpretations but, in general, I'd say BBBJ, CIM, DATY, hugging, kissing and other such similar things.  But no, I would not put BBFS in the GFE category.

xyz23 45 Reviews 674 reads
posted
5 / 20

...and there are those who contend BBFS is GFE. You're always going to have varying opinions but from my reading here and others I've talked to BBFS is not acceptable regardless of service level definitions. I don't and won't engage in it.

Lexi I'd venture to say most if not all those telling you BBFS is part of GFE were attempting to take advantage of you being new hoping they could convince you they were right.

There have been many discussions of GFE here and most not all mention it's an attitude not a certain set of services. Of those many will go on to say some services are necessary to be GFE. I won't list those as previous posters already have. Without the attitude of GFE it doesn't matter what you offer it isn't GFE.

Bottom line GFE is what you decide it will be for you. Don't let anyone talk you into going outside of what's comfortable for you.

keystonekid 114 Reviews 452 reads
posted
6 / 20
TurbayVeronica See my TER Reviews 471 reads
posted
7 / 20

Is an attitude, not a check list.
It's the intimacy, closeness, kissing, hugging, be affectionate.

Anyone that mention to me an unsafe practice is completely out of my list.... and would go into my BLACKLIST!!!

Lexiplexi See my TER Reviews 421 reads
posted
8 / 20

Thanks for the clarification, that is pretty much what I thought, but since I do not offer bbfs I wanted to be sure I wasn't falsely advertising my services. Had a few not so friendly responses when this issue came up, I've never really had it come up before.  
You guys are the best!
Xox

darmody 22 Reviews 354 reads
posted
9 / 20

I agree, it's more of an attitude. But I do expect certain things when I see the acronym, and with or without intimacy I wouldn't consider it GFE without tongue kissing, DATY, and some form of BJ, but not necessarily BBBJ. Usually BBBJ, but I can see calling it GFE with CBJ.  

If that's a checklist, so be it. We've got to have some objectivity.

MmmMelanie See my TER Reviews 424 reads
posted
10 / 20

Posted By: Lexiplexi
Not sure if this is the appropriate place to post this, there was a section in the TER manual that covered GFE, I still have a question...  
 A few times recently I've been asked if I provided GFE, and under the general idea I was given by the manual I assumed yes. When I was asked a little more detail it seems a good majority of the people that have asked me consider BBFS to be part of GFE, I was kind of under the impression that was kind of it's own entity? What is the popular consensus on GFE involving BBFS?  
   
 Thanks!  
 xoxo,  
 Lexi
There is absolutely no rule book on these terms, only a seemingly general consensus. Assumptions should NEVER be made, but clarified by the client so as not to result in disappointment.

And just because they are asking doesn't mean you have to include it. They are just testing your limits. Stand firm babe. You have the right to decide your own boundaries, don't let anyone else decide what they will be.

Besides...it's called the 'girlfriend experience' so it's mostly a fantasy about the intimacy of a girlfriend relationship. It's not being the actual girlfriend. Only an actual girlfriend would do it without a condom. To ask someone to do it while pretending to be a girlfriend type is .... let's just say... demanding. And selfish. You don't want to forever be paying for a guy who talked you into something like that because HE understood it to mean bbfs. He is wrong and needs to research his shit.

RobbinYoung See my TER Reviews 276 reads
posted
11 / 20

Posted By: GingerTaylor1234
Also, Lexi, personally I would be very leery of discussing services AT ALL over the phone. This could be an LE issue. How many think it is "supposed to" work in order for you to stay safe, is that the gentleman should be able to look at your website and tell what services you offer. Asking over the phone, text or e-mail is considered "unsafe" by many ladies.  
   
 Typically GFE means you offer services like DFK, BBBJ without an upcharge. Personally, I don't allow discussing this over the phone. I decline those who insist on discussing.

RachaelLee See my TER Reviews 489 reads
posted
12 / 20

.... I never do BB. To be honest, if I had a potential client even asked me if I offered it, I would delete their request. If they're asking you if you offer BB, they're probably doing it with other providers, and God knows what's crawling around in that p****

Stay safe!

ROGM 409 reads
posted
13 / 20

Posted By: RachaelLee
.... I never do BB. To be honest, if I had a potential client even asked me if I offered it, I would delete their request. If they're asking you if you offer BB, they're probably doing it with other providers, and God knows what's crawling around in that p****  
   
 Stay safe!
I've seen providers who were insist on using condoms. In my experience if I see a provider on a regular steady basis I'm able to get BBFSCIP. They don't offer it. I ask the provider. More often than not they agree.

NoYellowEnvelope 346 reads
posted
14 / 20

... many guys think GFE should include BBFS.  My FS with girlfriends was always covered, for both safety and for extra protection against pregnancy. Even with my wife, FS was always covered while she was able to conceive, when we weren't trying to have a child (two methods of birth control are better than one).

RSpork 23 Reviews 312 reads
posted
15 / 20
Fancy8888 See my TER Reviews 375 reads
posted
16 / 20

Posted By: Lexiplexi
Not sure if this is the appropriate place to post this, there was a section in the TER manual that covered GFE, I still have a question...  
 A few times recently I've been asked if I provided GFE, and under the general idea I was given by the manual I assumed yes. When I was asked a little more detail it seems a good majority of the people that have asked me consider BBFS to be part of GFE, I was kind of under the impression that was kind of it's own entity? What is the popular consensus on GFE involving BBFS?  
   
 Thanks!  
 xoxo,  
 Lexi
GFE session- kissing and cudding and good attitude.A lot professionals are going to do BBFS during paid sessions..Uncovered pu$$$ie$ and rimming and daty safer and cleaner uncovered d!ck?  A lot clients requests BBFS during paid session

-- Modified on 12/11/2016 7:43:04 AM

Jess_CountryGirl See my TER Reviews 253 reads
posted
17 / 20

+1,000 to this! Anyone who I haven't seen before, who brings up anything explicit over the phone or email I automatically cease contact with.  
 

Posted By: GingerTaylor1234
Also, Lexi, personally I would be very leery of discussing services AT ALL over the phone. This could be an LE issue. How many think it is "supposed to" work in order for you to stay safe, is that the gentleman should be able to look at your website and tell what services you offer. Asking over the phone, text or e-mail is considered "unsafe" by many ladies.  
   
 Typically GFE means you offer services like DFK, BBBJ without an upcharge. Personally, I don't allow discussing this over the phone. I decline those who insist on discussing.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 404 reads
posted
18 / 20
Lexiplexi See my TER Reviews 350 reads
posted
19 / 20

Thanks for all the responses, I really appreciate everyone's advice.  
I do not typically answer any questions regarding my services but I had two instances last week where I recieved calls and within the first minute was asked if I provided BBFS. I simply said no and hung up. In retrospect the hang up should've been all that happened but you know.. I'm human. One of the phone calls resulted in a text following where I was informed (I'm giving you the much nicer and edited version of course) that GFE does in fact include BBFS. So, I really was posting this for peace of mind and clarity on my part.  

Thanks again for the helpful insight!
Lexi

Samantha88jean See my TER Reviews 236 reads
posted
20 / 20

I offer gfe but I do not do bbfs. Some guys also are under the impression that it is included. Usually I will send a link when someone asks me if I do gfe explaining what I consider to be gfe and I will say to them, if this criteria meets your idea of gfe then yes I offer it. That way when they show up they're not under the Impression that they are going to receive bbfs.

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