Asking someone to be a reference seems over the line to me.

I mean that I am paying for an hour, not for the additional work of answering emails, or calls.

I tried to a good date (I gave a tip), the one time was with a pro, but I didn't feel right asking her to do more after it was over.

I sometimes give references for people, it's a big deal, only this situation seems different. Maybe I have some hang ups.

Ladies, are my feelings misguided?

Thanks for help

A reference a provider needs isn't what you think.

I would suggest you read the post below yours as it sounds like you don't know what you are asking or doing.

The post below will guide you through all you need to know about the sport of hobbying!!

I think you will find it no problem at all for the ladies....They depend on each other for references for their own safety.

That a very good point, I didn't think of that aspect of it.

Thanks

Your situation is unclear to me. Is a lady you want to see asking you to give her the names and contact info of other providers you have seen? If so, that's very common.

If you're concerned about the ladies who are vouching for you (that is, your references) getting annoyed at having to reply to the lady you want to see, don't worry about that. Most of us are quite happy to help each other out.

Either way, I can't see how it would require you, the client, to make any additional calls or answer emails (other than the ONE which contains the names and contact info) so maybe my interpretation of your post is incorrect!

See someone that does, and dont ever see her again..let us all know who she is -
HAHA - Kidding  ( kinda )

Safety in Numbers - for the most part - Carrie is Correct. Yes- we all help out our sistahs and brothahs -
Or , we try like hell anyhow.

I prefer references to any other kind of veryfication  so I reply to requests from other ladies withing the same day and have no issues with it.

XoXo

Lina