Hello,  

I'm a fairly new provider, and would like some input on this:

I told a potential client that one of my services offered is GFE, but I also made it known that I don't do anything BB.  He then told me that GFE is supposed to include BBBJ.  Why would a provider do BBBJ if she won't do BBFS?  You can still get STDs from BBBJ!  What is the logic to that?

HELP!!!!  

Thanks for any input y'all can give!!!!!!

Calli

as part of their menu. This is slightly riskier than NOT providing it, of course... but it's in no way equivalent to the risks of bareback intercourse.

In my book, a client requesting/suggesting/attempting bareback intercourse is subject to blacklisting.

I suggest that you look more thoroughly into the STD risks of various sex acts on a objective, medically-based website so you can assess for yourself the true risks of  different behaviors.

I will say, though, that your client is in the mainstream when he suggest that BBBJ is a standard offering in a GFE world.  

Good luck in your new endeavor!

Tabu

you picked the right place to ask your question.  I'm sure there are many opinions as to what should be included in a GFE.  In my case, no BBBJ or DFK and I do not visit that provider.  Those are my two deal-breakers.  I know from past dialogue, there are many other guys who will not see providers who only offer CBJ. However, it's your right to decide what you offer, you just might miss out on a number of potential clients.  If you don't feel comfortable doing a BBBJ, don't do it.  There is always risk in this enterprise, but everyone has to stay in their comfort zone.

Feel free to come back here if you have other questions.  If you have not read the self help center, I highly recommend doing it soon.

Swim

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Thank you for the advice, Tabu.  I will have to do a little more research on the subject, then decide if I want to change my menu.  I will admit, CBJ doesn't taste very good, and it isn't as much fun to give, so I'm sure it isn't that great for the client, either!

Callie

If you aren't comfortable with BBBJ, the guy [if he has any brain cells] will sense it and things will go downhill. There are plenty of other inventive ways to get his rocks off, of course.

A client w/o imagination is one sad dude... Offer to blind fold him and him guess what you are touching him with  

Best of luck to you, tiger....

Thank you for your point of view,  Swim.  I may have to rethink the no BBBJ, though I haven't had any complaints so far.  I guess I'm just old school with the STD phobia. lol

I have been lurking around here for weeks, while getting my business going, and I've learned A LOT!  I've also read the self help center, but I still have a lot to learn. Thank you!!

Calli

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Thanks for the info!  

Calli

The problem I see is that some ladies want it both ways. They want to use the GFE moniker but then not have to perform the GFE activities that are associated with it. Imo, thats deceptive.

They believe the GFE label helps business, and I would agree with that assessment, but to not perform that menu item would be problematic for me as it would be for most.

To most, the GFE menu includes DFK, BBBJ and DATY at a minimum.  

I hear and respect your STD concerns so just drop the GFE label, don't perform the BBBJ since it is a concern and you are good to go.

Oh, I'm totally comfortable with it, now that I know there's a lesser chance of catching something. But I will definitely have to try your blindfold suggestion!  (Usually I'm the one being blindfolded.)

Thanks!
Callie

.... BBBJs.  But they have learned how to do an exceptional CBJ.    Also, some of these "GFE" providers don't offer FS either.  Heresy, some will say!  But IMO they are as deserving of the "GFE" label as ladies who offer BBBJ and FS.  There are many types of girl friend experiences, after all.

Stay true to what you feel comfortable in offering to clients.  It's your body, and your business.

but I will echo what Swim said.  For me kissing is an absolute deal breaker and while I may see a lady who only offers CBJ once, I can't imagine becoming a regular without BBBJ being on the menu.

It's still up to you, and I wouldn't want to put any undue pressure on you to do something that in your opinion puts you at too great a risk to your health, but it's still the reality of how many guys feel, including myself.

Hi Callie,
You have to be comfortable with whatever you choose. There are MANY providers that do not offer bbbj and advertise as gfe. Yes it's a deal breaker for some guys but other guys won't see a girl that gives bbbj. You will be ok either way as long as you are honest. Make sure all your profiles say cbj (ter profile for example) and the guys will know upfront.  It will be documented in your reviews eventually as well. Your dance card will fill one way or the other. On the flip side;  bbbj is not as risky as fs. Two different beasts all together but there is some risk with everything.  The CDC (center for disease control) website will give you facts on anything you want. They are the governing body for the medical field vs opinions on general Google type sites. Check it out and do whatever you want to.  There is a shoe for every foot in this industry, the key is to be honest and the rest will fall in place.  Good luck and have fun!  Provider only board is a big help as well, if you are not a member yet you may want to look into it!

part of the GFE experience for me.  As GaG said, you need to be comfortable with your menu offerings as well.

Good luck in your new adventure.

12th topic down the list "STD information"

I read that last link. Question and answer was in 2006; things have changed quite a bit since 06. Referring to the link you posted;  I read the last question/answer.  CDC is the safest place for this stuff.  They track rates etc and publish for the public as well as medical professionals. Just make sure you are on 2014 data.

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CBJ then he can shoot a load on you somewhere.  It's still REALLY hot and your both safe.. and I've had a few pretty good CBJ from providers!!  Need a thin condom and apply more pressure and use more hand stroking while teasing other erogenous zones!

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