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Daty - Am I just part of a vast minority?
Ralistin 2 Reviews 5904 reads
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I have only been in the hobby a short time with only 5 providers seen. I have read probably hundreds of reviews by now. What I don't understand is that a vast majority of reviewers claim to have provided daty with their provider. Now in a personal relationship I both enjoy daty for her pleasure and my own. With a provider I just don't have the desire. First, I believe most but not all couldn't care less and just allow it for the client and put on a show that they enjoy it. Secondly, I just don't want to be down there knowing how often others are. Am I really in the minority here?

This is really about personal gratification so if some act doesn't work for you just don't engage. I could care less about rimming but some guys seem to really like it. Seems to be common enough that I have had to tell the lady I'm not into it so unless she is lets move on to other things.

 
As for the "I'm not alone here" aspect. Well, I try to see women that have very good personal hygiene so expect them to keep themselves fresh. Unless you're seeking providers that allow uncovered penetration and CIP I'm not sure that you have much to be concerned about from other clients but you still have the question of the person's personal hygiene habits. But that is no different than if you are in an exclusive relationship (though assume that might also be a large part of the reason for a breakup to occur).

 
Enjoy things that make you happier and avoid the things that don't and done worry about figuring our why others do things unless you're getting paid for giving counseling. ;-)

...because most mongers, myself included, love to give DATY. I also love to receive it, but that's another story, lol. Even knowing in the back of my mind that she might be faking it for my benefit doesn't stop my body from responding to her physical and verbal cues.  
AFA many others having been there before me- as long as she's fresh and clean I don't care. Every monger has no doubt seen others too but that doesn't stop providers from going there.

At the end of the day it's to each their own.

In traditional Japanese Kabuki, all of the roles, including the female roles, are played by men. I wonder if I could put one over on lopaw by offering her a free session at my Kabuki Massage Parlor? Well, until she asks to DATY me, then it's game over.

Posted By: lopaw
Re: Yes I'd say that you are in the minority...
...because most mongers, myself included, love to give DATY. I also love to receive it, but that's another story, lol. Even knowing in the back of my mind that she might be faking it for my benefit doesn't stop my body from responding to her physical and verbal cues.  
 AFA many others having been there before me- as long as she's fresh and clean I don't care. Every monger has no doubt seen others too but that doesn't stop providers from going there.  
   
 At the end of the day it's to each their own.
Sayonara.

that I LOVE to DATY and they really seem to enjoy it. I'm very particularly on who I see, so they've always been freshly showered.

I've only encountered one provider who didn’t seem to be interested in it, so I stopped. Believe me, a provider will let you know if they don't care for it.

If you select a reputable provider with impeccable hygiene, you shouldn't worry about "how often others are down there".

If you're worried about how many clients a provider sees, maybe seeing providers isn't for you.

I’m a newbie been with 3 providers. 2 at the same time.  

I told myself the same thing before seeing the first one. But I did anyway because I got lost into the moment. Plus it added to the fantasy of a hot sex session.

Maybe you're in the wrong game, LOL.

There are so many sexual acts and sexual positions and sexual desires and sexual kinks that it's utterly impossible for all people to like all of the exact same things. In addition to being impossible, it's also unnecessary. So you don't want to do a particular thing, and a lot of other people do want to do it. Big deal, right? There are probably some things that you enjoy yet few other people do. I don't know why it's important to you what other guys do in bed. I don't like getting handjobs, and I don't do anal intercourse, other people do those things, it doesn't bother me a bit.  

There's no requirement that you have to do anything that you don't want to do in civvie sex or in P4P. Sex workers are well aware that clients are individuals and not everyone does the same thing in a session. Some sex workers themselves don't allow cunnilingus from clients, just like some civvie women don't allow it with their partners.

Even outside of P4P, civvie life that is, almost everything about sex is rife with personal choices, none of which have to match up one person to another (unless of course it's the person or persons with whom you're having sex).

In my case, I absolutely love eating pussy. Long before I got into P4P, going down on women parallels with intercourse as one of my favorite things to do. Even with civvies, I have not gone down on every single woman I went to bed with, but it's extremely few of them that fall into that category. Hell, there have even been some women I've gone down in and never had intercourse with them. My philosophy is that if it's good enough for my cock to go into, it's good enough for my mouth to go onto, or vice versa.

Hygiene is a consideration no matter whom you're bedding. Physical contact of any sort with other people and their surroundings has intrinsic probabilities, both good or bad. Even abstaining from kissing a sex worker or using condoms every time when having intercourse with a sex worker does not 100% guarantee anything, just like with civvie sex.

I agree with some of the others who posted replies before I did.

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I know some providers who like DATY and need it to get the most enjoyment out of a session. But certainly there are, perhaps the majority, who just want to get paid.  There isn't a universal answer.

I’m a provider and I LOVE DATY I moan and scream so loud lol

If their a GFE provider they should too!

...so returning the favor only seems fair to me lol. But to each his own, if it doesn't do it for you then don't do it and don't worry what others think. It's a pay-for-play world and if you're paying, why should you care what others want to do that you don't?

Personally I love giving DATY, especially a good 69, and it disappoints me when a provider doesn't want to do it. Again, not everyone is into the same things though so you move on and make the best of it.

I am a fan of DATY. I find it sexy and sensual, I have been told I am really good at it and have a preferred position for the lady to straddle my face while she grabs the headboard and I dip my tongue into her honey hole. I've been doing this long enough to know when my partner is enjoying it, not enjoying it or enjoying it but resisting her orgasm. I've seen all of the above. I respect boundaries. I also don't engage every encounter with a DATY session. If I get into the session, sense a lack of hygiene, or even more subtly, if her place is not clean, I associate her "lack of attention" to overall cleanliness to her personal cleanliness. That might sound dumb, but that is how I roll. Always rely upon your gut. But have a plan going in and rehearse in your head of what your game plan is going to be and ALWAYS do your research on the companion before the session.

I love DATY & a man who loves to oral please! How often, do you assume another man is down there? Not enough lol. Smile for me.

Do what makes you happy.

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