Edging puts me in control without requiring me to expend a lot of energy.
Edging is bringing someone to the brink, then slowing down or stopping, over and over. One way to slow down the arousal is to litely massage down the thigh, starting at the top and working down to the mid-thigh. This can bring orgasmic energy into the thighs. Has anyone experienced this?
I have found that bondage is not necessary for this type of session. My receivers always cooperate willingly. Of course, bondage certainly can be implemented. If it is, then it adds a Dominant element: "aw, you want me to keep going don't you? Too bad. I'm stopping and there is not one thing you can do about it, except beg..."
Unfortunately, it is difficult to ask a provider for this, since it is considered explicit. Happily, there is a session called Elysium. It includes edging. In order for a provider to give you an Elysium session, she has to be trained. You can look on www.bondassage.com to find an Elysium provider.
If you already know a provider, when you are face to face, you can ask her for edging. If she is not an expert at it, tell her how long you would like to be edged. Eg. 45 min.
