I researched yesterday and made a short list to see today. A well reviewed massage girl was available this morning so we set via email. I have done this before but I have always met at a studio. Today was a house in uptown. I was 5 minutes early, to me early is on time and on time is late. Rang both doorbells, no answer. Start time has now passed and I dont like standing on a porch attracting attention so I left. We talked afterword and it sounded like I should have come in the door, I'm not exactly sure. I apologized because maybe I bailed too soon. I am only out the time It took to drive there (30 mins), she is out an hour of her time, and maybe this is her only job. I feel bad for this but not sure this was all my fault, the whole point is it would have taken a simple phone call and it would not have been an issue. Anyone else have this issue or did I just f up?

Intentional, mistakes happen. I assume most people would understand

I definitely don't blame her, not mad at her, I apologized even though I don't think I did anything wrong. Would any of you have opened the door and walked in and said "hello"?

I assume you know how meetings work.

She answered her own emails, but it was the same format that I have seen before so I don't know. one 10 second phone call we would have met

I may try the door handle and if unlocked and open i may walk in to an empty room screaming "WONG in the house...drop your panties and come out with your hands on your tits!!"

I take it you weren't told to do that.  I know that unless I had been there before and knew the process, I would not feel comfortable just walking into a house I had never been before just like that.  Worst case if somehow you had the wrong address and just walked into or tried to walk into some total stranger's house then that could go badly.

In my opinion the big schedulers do a poor job with customer service for the big cut they take. I've had to wait at a door feeling conspicuous and eventually sent another email waiting for a response. I tend to seek out independent girls when possible.

I wasn't told that. I checked the address again while I was waiting but still wouldn't just walk in, for the reason you said.

see my response above...if you announce yourself properly.  

Lol, I'll go there and watch this, maybe it would have worked today. Hell it probably would have but I'm almost 40 and I decided to use my brain more now.

Bad communication on her's or the scheduler's part.  I wouldn't have walked in unless I had been there before and knew the setup.

The little brain always gets us into precarious positions in the first place.  The bigger brain gets us into or out of more serious situations.  Always be prepared for disappointment, rip off or Jesus forbid the fat asses in blue.  Just because she gave you the address and it seems like you are talking to a provider it doesn't mean it ain't her scheduler who just can't figure his/her ass from his her head.  Don't beat your head against the curb outside her outcall...get your ass home start again.  That my friend is the hours you put in the hobby.

I'm glad most agree with the not entering. I just think had I waited and got her email it might have been resolved, though I would still rather be met at the door.

Bong Jesus as other aliases have said it is between my doctor and myself.  There is a lot of anxiety involved in making an appointment and walking up to the incall.  If I feel the need to Colorado my mind before I get involved with a rusty trombone that is between me and my "therapist".  

Anyone that knows me knows I think outside the furry box.  Humor, playfulness, that's what the hobby should be about.  If she doesn't laugh, maybe you aren't going to have a good time??  Leave the fart jokes to AT LEAST the third date though, from experience.  

Thanks for your advice. I really feel bad about how it went down. That said I won't do something to put us in danger of anything.

You'd get your 15 minutes of fame.

That was an innocent fun post with grand humor.

It amuses me no end.

But it's so easy to get yourself out of that situation!  You just say:  "Trick or treat.  Wrong door."

That is just the thing to do.  Such sound advice. Good way to: 1.  Find out if you got the address right from the girl or scheduler.  (Never a mix-up there, is there?)  2.  Find out if if her "man" or another guy is there who just might want to kick your ass.  3. Startle people during some type of transaction where, oh, I don't know... someone might be packing more than a penis?

And if you did you give her at least 5-10 to respond?

I emailed right at the scheduled time, I rang the doorbell before and after sending it. I couldn't hear if it was ringing inside or not. I got a reply about 15 minutes after scheduled start. I had no instructions on what to do when I got there, I was expecting a commercial building, not an older house.

not necessarily inconspicuous behavior either. I don't like the idea of a lot of foot traffic. So standing in a high traffic area with my face in my phone trying to email and then "refresh" over and over for a response. nope.
I would have headed back to my car, regrouped and maybe try again if I get a quick response.
Situational awareness is very important. Hard to keep that with your face in your phone.
~Butts

Did you double check and triple check the instructions in the email? Perhaps you had missed a line where it said to just walk in. I mean, if it's a house in a neighborhood, perhaps the provider wouldn't want to answer the door in something skimpy all day long lest the neighbors quickly starting to wonder what's going on. Ya know?

That's why they hide behind the door lol.

I went and looked through the emails again, they were still in my trash. There were no instructions in the email where the address was given, just to confirm, which I did. There was one 15 minutes after start time saying "Come in and go up the stairs babe I'll let you in". I just realized this when I deleted them the other day. The thing is, I am not just going to walk into an unknown house. It said in the email this was a NEW location. I would rather avoid this place and don't know who else shares it, so I guess I'll go another direction.

Like I said I feel bad. I was out a drive,she lost a 1 hour slot in her time. If I cost her that I would give her that donation.

No meet no $.  Sounds like you were on the lame end of scheduling that sucks, but is par for the course.  Been there, done that.  Sometimes the best laid plans of meeting don't work out for either party.  If we were to "owe" each other I think I could hobby for free for a good long while for as much of my time that's also been wasted over the years on "give me your address and I'll be there in 20 min" or my knapsack full of showing up to her incall only to have just what you said happen.  Besides, don't we all, on both sides of the equation have the option to bail if you get the sniff of pork in the mix?  Get my drift?  Screw it OP, move on, take her off your radar, and do what you do.  

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Thank you Wong, you have been a great help, less me going in guns a blazing announcing myself as Wong. Seriously though, I appreciate your input.

I agree sir, ditnt like i

I think the Clash refrain "Should I stay or should I go now?" is a simple sentence any REAL client has rattling around his brain each and every time he show up at an appointment.  Anything deviates from your spidey sense and you should bail.  That's what differentiates OG's from the no review, nothing to add, tell me everything, ISO posting, crap newbie input lately.  Good luck.  PM me for further if you'd care to.

Expecting someone to just walk in the door of a house they have never been in before is strange.  Failing to even mention that fact ahead of time was just asking for things to go sideways.

Thank you your input means a lot. I would still like to meet her maybe im crazy.

Thing is I still want to see h