If you are a lady giving bj, how does a guy putting his hands on your head affect you?  Do you like when he plays with your hair, has both hands on the sides of your head and just goes with your movements or maybe even pushing on your head as well?

Guys, do you prefer to keep your hand off, place them on the ladies head, help her buy pushing a little or something else?

Me personally, I will usually ask if the lady minds or what she prefers.  I have to admit I have been surprised a few times in the answers I have received!

I don't recall ever assisting her head movement while tending to my head but I suppose I'd consider it if requested.  

I thought that maybe your post was going to ask about eye contact during a bj. Reviews often mention this as a positive. I suppose it must add to the experience for some. It's not a big deal to me though. It's probably silly (and selfish) but I usually avoid the eye contact during a bj to avoid some type of signal that I'm supposed to be doing something extra. I usually stare off into space and ignore.  

Sorry if I'm hijacking the OP's original post, but what do receivers and givers of BJs think about eye contact?

I've had all different types of things said by the girls while they're giving me a BJ. Just a few examples are pull my hair...don't touch my hair...fuck my mouth/face...don't move, let me move my mouth...oowww...gag gag..deeper...

I'm very flexible in this and don't really have any preferences. I've found it's best (for me) to let the ladies do it the way they are most comfortable. This is one area where I often let them lead the way. After all, I don't want it to get bitten off and I prefer win-win situations over me-first.

I don't like eye contact so much. I prefer they keep their eyes on the prize...but if they want to see how much I'm enjoying it by looking at me, then I guess that's fine, too.

... for grabbing a solid hank of her hair in my hand and using it as a handle to move her head just the way I like it. One time, long ago, I did it without first negotiating a clear understanding and agreement with the lady. That learning experience has stayed with me. She didn't actually hurt me for my presumption, but the tongue lashing I received was  not the one I'd been hoping for.  

On the other hand, the first time I met one of my favorite ladies I was passive until she lifted up, said "Show me what you like," and placed my hand on her head before re-engaging. That was pretty thrilling.

Different strokes for different folks. One way or the other, communication is the key. A non-threatening start is to ask permission to hold her hair back so it doesn't block the view. If she grabs an elastic band and puts her hair in a pony tail, instead, you've probably learned something.

Eye contact is important to me, but not necessarily during the bj part of the session. If she doesn't want to make eye contact at all, it sends a very bad signal. If there is plenty of eye contact at other times, it's fine by me if she wants to remain focused on her art during the blow job. But if she likes to make eye contact with my cock in her mouth, if she smiles around my dick and winks at me without breaking her rhythm, it definitely adds to my enjoyment.

Although I do sometimes encourage her to adjust her pace, etc. to what would feel best for me.

I've sucked a lot of dick and found you guys are all different in what gets you off. Some like it fast and hard, some like it more sensual. Some like me to stare into their eyes and some it makes uncomfortable. Some like their balls played with and others prefer I use that hand to play with your ass.  Well actually not to many of you don't like their balls fondeled in some way, lol.  It's not too hard to figure out by your reactions.  You can do whatever you want to my head and hair as long as you don't jerk it around really hard, a few times I've had a sore neck the next day. Just move it the way you want it and I'll get the message.  As long as I'm not physically uncomfortable I'll do whatever you want to make it hot for you.

Agreed.  And equally important, I just let her do my thing.

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I like to reach down and hold a boob, not enough boob holding in life.
slowly up and down, tongue and lips on the head and wet.
the ones that do it good, don't need directing, it's just good.

Not to hijack the thread...but welcome back Freyja....are you back working?

Sorry guys I'm not that Freyja.  I'm a new one that posts with a alias so you guys can get some insightful and helpful answers without the usual b.s. from the uninformed and delusional johns and the escorts worried about disrupting their cash flow, like me .  Everyone wins.

from one in three posts to one in five largely because of attacks on them for posts as you have noted.  I hope more women come on as aliases. The board is better for having you here

I agree 100% with what you said "Freyja".   No two guys are the same in how they "like it"....there is no one standard way to suck a cock.

I'll often ask....after I'm in to it for a little bit....(and after I've titty-fucked them too, of course.....because what guy doesn't like that, right???)....  so how do you like it the Best.....  and see what progresses from there.  No sense in doing it in a way the guy doesn't Really like or get off on, right??

 
As far as the "eye contact" thing goes, that can be a bit tricky.  I just "assume" all guys like the eye contact ....... unless every time I look at them I see their eyes are closed....then I get the idea they aren't turned on by seeing my baby blues while I'm deepthroating their dick.    
(Yes, I do talk a little naughty sometimes.... GASP!)

BTW, great post...and no one could find any b.s. or drama in what you said.  But I understand the alias use.  
I feel 100% confident that I can post my reply to this without it affecting my cash flow.  

who know, it may even "help" it.  

........and after being in Vegas this week, I need it.   LOL, but that's another thread.

 
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lol.

well, the reasons they gave for using an alias are cool.

so, what difference does it make in the grand scheme of things

My eyes open, My eyes closed. It doesn't matter to me.......just as long as it's you  

In my humble opinion you are one of the very best in the biz and exactly what we need more of.  If I had a cock I would want you sucking it.  I've even gotten a tiny bit jealous hearing the boys rave about your skills.  In person your sexuality energy is electric.  Hopefully one day I'll have the pleasure of having your face buried in my lap... of course I'll reciprocate.  A girl can dream.

Eyes closed, slow with lots of tongue for an extended period of time.

Everyone wins?  Not sure I agree.  The original was a real sweetheart!  With such an unusual name.  Not sure she'd agree with you.  

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 why I don't get why alias's are allowed here.

All of that works for me and sound real good right about now.

 

Nothing better than staring a beautiful woman in the eyes when she's got her lips wrapped firmly around the base of my tool and feeling the head of it throbbing in her throat... With her long hair tickling my thighs and a gleam in her eye knowing she's got it all in...  Ahhhhhh heaven.....  Now just gotta find that woman!!