I have not been a regular in the hobby, but I have been with two providers a few years ago. These two ladies had a way of taking control of every situation. I believe most ladies do this same thing, but these two could understand what I was thinking or wanting. I didn't say anything. I just love the sexy confidence these ladies share. In my real life I always have to make the decisions and this didn't happen. It was great.

It also depends on my mood- do I want to be in charge- or let the provider take charge.
If you are looking for a more submissive role, see someone like Portia.  Not only can she turn you inside out, she knows how to take charge and pamper you at the same time.  
The same can be said for Sheila Foxx and Poppy.  You can just lay back and enjoy.

...and it helps if they are attracted to guys who ride Harleys.

I know it is a two way street and most likely can't even begin to imagine the bullshit ladies hear.  But a lady who does what she says she is going to do is important to me.   bigdell

I want to be able to enjoy her company for the entire time we are together, not just the physical part.