Good evening everyone,
I am writing today because I've been trying to understand the reason(s) behind the decision of a Provider who decided to block me online after I've been one of her regulars for about two years. The scenario is as follows: I met a Provider on P411 and we scheduled an appointment as usual. We had good chemistry, trust and she seemed to enjoyed my company and I hers. We saw each other on and off for about two years and during that time we've become more close: she said her new rates does not apply to me, she wanted me to trust her, and on our last communication, she said she missed me. However, when she decided to take on a new alias, things changed. I tried to schedule an appointment with her as usual; I told her I missed spending time with her, how I look forward to seeing her etc. I sent her an appointment request and sent her a message on P411. I waited for about a month and I didn't receive any reply. I messaged her assistant and again no reply. I contacted the support team on P411 and they told me she'd blocked me. To this day, I don't understand what caused her to change her behavior. All I tried to do was to try and maintain our relationship by scheduling another appointment but somehow she decides to not see me anymore after she takes on a new alias. I know that Providers usually don't get rid of regulars unless they've put some thought into it beforehand therefore I understand it's a conscious decision on her part. What I don't understand is potentially why? I haven't done anything offensive. Is it common for a Provider to stop seeing previous regulars because they wanted to start with a new slate? Please let me know what you guys think.the only certainty is uncertainty. You'll never know why she made that decision unless she directly tells you, which is unlikely. Given that, the best approach is to simply move on, find another ATF, and continue enjoying the hobby.
Been there, done that, found MUCH better options over time. Younger, hotter, better in bed. That's the answer!
If she is so inclined she knows how to contact you. Otherwise, you probably don't want to know the "real" reason she has ghosted you. Let it pass.
But I would have to agree with other comments - I would not overthink it, and I would recommend moving on. So in the mid 2000s, there was a girl I met with PC and then she went indy. She was a real sweetheart and I loved seeing her. I wrote reviews on her, would recommend when asked. She would wish me happy birthday on mine and I would on hers. She then had a bad incident with a client, and we talked about it at length. Eventually she stopped working for a while, only to crop up a couple of years later. I reached out to her, using my same email addy, phone number and profile, and she acted like she didn't know me. I tried for a couple of times to make an appointment. She would be polite, but it was clear, she didn't want to meet me. So I moved on. I have no hard feelings and I don't wonder about why. She has a choice in this too, and I just have to respect that.
The lady in your situation equally has that choice. I think you look for new favorites. You will find them!
Thank you for the advice and kind words. I appreciate it.
This is why I never get attached. I have seen SWers ghost regulars. Typically, it's when they feel either the regular is too attached to them, or they are having feelings for the regular that they do not want to have/feel comfortable with given their chose profession. But like others said, you will not know for sure unless she tells you and you may not want to know. Moving on is what is best for you.
Maybe she’s evolved & no longer wants the same clientele. You can move on, or appear to be stalking to inquire directly. If she wanted the World to know she would post it. Many women rebrand.