Hi im new to this and i was wondering if you guys can help me out with this dilema. I've seen 2 providers but they both have been out of state but there is this one providers that lives on my state that i want to see. My question is if LE gets the list of the out ot state providers and my name and number is there, ive read posts that there is little chance of them coming after me, but what if they get the list of the provider thats where i live is there a change that i could get charge with soliciting, or come after me with other chareges?
If they just find your contact info? Typically that's not going to be near enough for a conviction, so they won't bother charging you. If they get the girl to testify, they *might* be able to make a case against you. More likely, they'll be contacting you trying to interview about her and get some testimony to help their case. Your main concern is going to be trying to explain to your SO or co-workers why the cops want to talk to you, especially if they get chatty about the case (which there's a pretty good chance of).
Your safest course of action (aside from not seeing anyone) is to see someone who's got a consistent history of good review and who does her screening. Sure that screening could give her more information that could be possibly used to make your life less comfortable, but it'll also keep her chances of getting busted (and by extension, the chances of the cops getting your number) down. You're safer with a well reviewed local girl who checks you out thoroughly than an out of stater with no reviews who doesn't want anything more than your phone number.
the best /safe to way deal with this same as dating in the real world, meet your provider for coffee or lunch (cannot guarentee you will not get arrested for that) Never discuss cash or sex.
The first time you meet have a quick lunch & bring a small gift(godiva chocolate, a small frangrance gift set etc.. ) put in a cash donation for 1 hour in a cute friendship card...... if you like her then ask if she would like to meet again sometime, ladies love to be treated like ladies, then have a 2nd date basically same thing.. then a third by the third you may have romantic time,,
sorry seems like a ton of effort but it is nothing compared to the cost of an arrest, then after your 3 rd date you can be pretty safe plus you have already established a relationship.. again never discuss money ever always just discretly put the money on a table or in a card something.
but if the police want to get a conviction (unlikely) of you on this, the mere finding of your name in a provider's book or laptop is not sufficient to convict, and not worth the police and prosecutor's time.
It is a very rare occurence to say the least.
What is more probable (though still not likely)is that the police may call or write you in an attempt to shame you into not seeing providers again. Should your wife find out about this, it could have far more ramifications (legal and otherwise) than a misdemeanor conviction.
There is a thread just below this one with more discussion of this point.
(Still not a lawyer)
Thanks for the reply, im not marry so im not worry about divorce, and the post you talked about is about a provider that is not in his state, thats why i was wondering what would happened if the provider was in the same state where i live, would there be a greater change of me getting in trouble.
well i guess ill contact the provider, and hopefully if she ever gets caught by LE they wont give me too much trouble.
mrfisher is correct. The only thing that can happen is someone other than you finding out..especially your wife or signifigant other.
Unless you wrote check to a provider that can be traced..your chances of any recourse are slim if none.