i get an email from another provider for a reference from one of my faves...i do not have a problem with being a reference, but if they already wrote a lot of reviews and have many whitelists, why the hell do you need to contact me?...isn't that what whitelisting is for?

someone tried to use my handle (impersonating me) in their email to a Lady, pointing to my Whitelists.  

I was alerted to this happening because I keep in touch with a number of Ladies who have Whitelisted me, and I tell them that a legitimate reference check will always come with a piece of information I have given the reference asker to pass on to her. My provider friend alerted me to getting a false request, and we both told the asking provider the guy was a fraud.

When a Lady I want to see needs one or two provider references, I will give her names from my Whitelist, and the aforementioned 'secret fact'. I've taken to also alerting my provider that a reference may be coming in.  

I'd say less than half the time the provider I am going to see ever does contact my reference.

So I guess it comes down to what makes a Lady feel safe

It is a piece of mind for me that they really do recall seeing them and felt safe. I have actually contacted a provider that had whitelisted someone and they told me they wouldn't see that hobbyist again. I am not sure why you would whitelist someone you wouldn't see but it happened. I have 0 issue ever giving a reference for anyone because our safety (all of us) is important and I would never put anyone in harms way!

People change on both sides of the aisles.
A lady may whitelist a guy had a great session
the guy shows up fot a later session and the guy is drunk or has some other issue

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totally agree.