I've never heard of such a thing.  Does that happen?

I'm going to save both of us time and effort by either requesting an OK or a Whitelist if we've had a great time.  It's a one time effort and I'm not taking up her time.

Like she stated, it's a business decision. Seeing a lady once and thinking you're entitled to constantly use her as a refence is a bit much.

As does TER.
You can't see whitelists without being VIP member which is a payed (or earned) feature.

 

Do I think it's a good idea to charge for references?
No.

Dose my opinion of someone else's business change how I do mine?
No.

Does worrying and complaining and bashing how others do things make you look and feel good?
I think not.

 

 
Try focusing on something that makes you happy and worry about it if your future date lists someone as a reference who requires such. Until then live and let live.  

 
Blowing someone else's candle out doesn't make yours burn brighter.

...check with the provider who whitelisted the guy to make further inquiries.  If the provider gets tired of the inquiries, she'd have to remove her whitelisting of the guy.

The same could be said for P411. How each lady decides to screen is out of my control. I just know I'm not the one whose initiated the contact.

Goldie,
I have never heard that expression, but touche!

The beauty of this business is that everyone (hobbiest and provider) can do things how they like. There is a virtual smorgasbord of options out there so find those that are consistent with what you want/like and simply pass the others by.

Btw, the same can be said about 'requiring cancellation fees, charging deposits, not accepting same day dates, etc... To each his/her own

... otherwise, I've always relied on my White Listings or my many P411 Okays. I'm a very independent person and I usually find it awkward to ask others for a favor. Recently, for the 1st time in many years, I was asked to provide a recent reference as my most recent P411 Okay was over 6 months old. I reached out to a woman I had recently seen in San Diego (I was in Miami at the time) for a reference. I had seen my San Diego companion twice in one week so I felt very comfortable asking her for a reference which she provided very quickly and very professionally. I can understand how much of a time drain it can be for a Provider to do this for one client. let alone many. I think Arden's policy of 2 for free isn't unreasonable. After that, shouldn't a guy ask his most recent Provider for a reference if needed? Maybe if a guy sees a Provider with such a policy on a fairly regular, irregular basis, she might waive a strict policy in his case? I realize that most of us who play this P4P game are sticklers for following rules (    NOT!  

It's really a non-issue IMO.

You would hope your so called Whitelist would be good enough.  However, if you take a break from this activity it is like starting all over again.  In my opinion it is feeling like too much effort.  I am curious what providers ask when checking references.  I know in the past I have been given less than enthusiastic references, and I am not about to put myself through that again.

...any particular provider from my white list.  I never ask someone I've seen for a reference.  If I want to see a new provider, I just refer her to my white lists and she is free to contact (or not) anyone she wishes.  If the wheel of misfortune lands on the same provider too many times, she is free to remove my white list.  I don't ask for white lists so I wouldn't complain if one was removed for a reason other than retirement.

Arden,
No apology necessary. Those who know your reputation and commitment to the art of being a courtesan understand that you have to chart your own course as to what works best for you. On a personal note, we appreciate your thoughts, ideas and posts. It gives us more to consider as we refine our craft, so to speak. Would love to meet you one of these days as we have some common friends in Vegas and LA!

Tori & Nick

Speaking of the troll that started this whole thread.  If you don't like any particular business's policy, then don't go there.  As popular as Arden is, she is not a monopoly. There are lots of ladies you can see that may have policies you can agree with.  
Move on and stop busting her buns about things that are none of your business and have nothing to do with you.  After all this, I seriously doubt if she would ever see you professionally, so you will never have occasion to ask her for a reference.

It's always been my modus operandi to follow up with an e-gift card of some other token of thanks for a 2nd or 3rd reference.  My rule of thumb is that I would hope to receive one reference for each date, but anything beyond that is encroaching on her private and professional time, and should be compensated.  Nothing against what is being said here, we each have our own way of working this and I respect that,  but I've always found that a small investment in your street cred pays off big time.

Possible risk with this practice is that a bad person can make nice payments to willing call girls to have him portrayed in a positive light.