I think it has to do with perceived vulnerability. Like stated on another link, we have so many secrets as hobbyists, secret cash stash, secret phones to contact you with, lies to explain where we go, secrets to have sex with other people that aren't our SO's, ect.
Then we are confronted with a dilemma to reveal our very lives that we try so hard to protect, when we meet, do you reveal your true identity with a photo ID? Fuck no! Some guys can get hooked up with a psycho bitch too, it may not happen as often as to the ladies, but it could.
Recently I read a very active hobbyists wife found out all about his hobbying, and she was threatening to contact every provider in his phone.
We put a lot of trust, both providers and hobbyists, in strangers we meet, it is still illegal for now. We don't want to lose our livelihood, our jobs and all the rest.
It's perception, I reluctantly give providers my personal info, but I have also passed on many opportunities because I just did not feel comfortable exposing my life for P4P! EO
I have been getting a lot of requests for appointments from gentlemen that are new to the hobby and don't have references.
I require that you send me a picture of yourself holding your picture ID, showing your full name but you can cross off your address. I take that info that you send me and do some research to make myself feel comfortable in order to see you. After I verify you I DELETE YOUR INFORMATION.
If you don't provide a picture ID, your full name is still required and I will require your work phone number and call to verify a doctor appointment. If your company has a website, I will research the company on the web i.e. sunbiz.org to see if it is actually a legitimate company.
You can't expect a provider to see a gentleman who doesn't have a reference based on them telling you I'm not a cop, I swear lol. Seriously? Our safety is of utmost importance and the good ole days of believing someone just on their word are gone.
Gentlemen, what do you feel is necessary for you to give a provider in order for her to verify you and feel safe at the same time?
... or reviews on TER or another major board.
P411 would mean you have no okays as well, just verified strictly through P411.
What would you feel comfortable with?
if they are not willing to provide it. Though I have not and will not ever require a photo ID, I do require many other things and it is CLEARLY stated on my contact page along with my availability. Know what the real problem is? Guys don't fkin read once tits and ass are in their face lol.
would much rather see your tits and ass.
...the thing is, once you see them, you just have to feel them too!
information wise... except SS#!!!!!! whether it be pics of me, work info. Whatever I can provide to assist in that comfort level.. No problem with me..
Certainly understand the need to be safe these days. But there are limits to what information comes out to get verified. My concern is what happens to that info once it's out? God forbid you get picked up with all that info you collected. Then we get another huge bust like the one up north a few years ago.
I require that you send me a picture of yourself holding your picture ID, showing your full name but you can cross off your address. I take that info that you send me and do some research to make myself feel comfortable in order to see you. After I verify you I DELETE YOUR INFORMATION.
If you don't provide a picture ID, your full name is still required and I will require your work phone number and call to verify a doctor appointment. If your company has a website, I will research the company on the web i.e. sunbiz.org to see if it is actually a legitimate company.
You can't expect a provider to see a gentleman who doesn't have a reference based on them telling you I'm not a cop, I swear lol. Seriously? Our safety is of utmost importance and the good ole days of believing someone just on their word are gone.
Gentlemen, what do you feel is necessary for you to give a provider in order for her to verify you and feel safe at the same time?
Please ignore my post.....didn't have enough coffee this morning. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
I require that you send me a picture of yourself holding your picture ID, showing your full name but you can cross off your address. I take that info that you send me and do some research to make myself feel comfortable in order to see you. After I verify you I DELETE YOUR INFORMATION.
If you don't provide a picture ID, your full name is still required and I will require your work phone number and call to verify a doctor appointment. If your company has a website, I will research the company on the web i.e. sunbiz.org to see if it is actually a legitimate company.
You can't expect a provider to see a gentleman who doesn't have a reference based on them telling you I'm not a cop, I swear lol. Seriously? Our safety is of utmost importance and the good ole days of believing someone just on their word are gone.
Gentlemen, what do you feel is necessary for you to give a provider in order for her to verify you and feel safe at the same time?
I think London's approach is spot on. A girl would be irresponsible to see a client without assuring her safety. Personally I would not give out my personal information so I have a p411 account. I recently changed my TER handle but still have reviews they can see also. If that isn't enough for a provider then I will move on. It only happened to me once.- Allisa Labonne in NY--I was disappointed but did not give the info and did not see her.