I have a notice a increase in booked appt that are fake.they either just fall off the planet without a word or last second give a excuse and disappear.

So here is the question  

Providers - if a client sets a appt and disappears without a word. What do you do?

Gents- have you ever and if so why set an appt and just disappeared without a word?

I have regular but all seem to be cheap and alot of them like lastnight say 5mins away then disappear. As for age of my clients I do mainly see 40 n up yet have no issue with gents younger then that. Just at the point of screaming.  I can get 15 appts for the wk and lucky if 1 or 2 show up. It's like a game to them.   I always am available and have never stood anyone up or canceled a set appt.

Was it really necessary to criticize her in public? Do you feel better about yourself now?  Geez.  Maybe there is something going on in the community that someone can respond to.  Next time it could be you needing information or feedback.

Thanx for defending me hun but I don't think she meant to offend me. She was just putting her 2 cents in. And everyone is allowed to have there own option. Just because her clientele isn't like the rest of us doesn't mean she doesn't have something to say.

emails every other day and perhaps a few phone conversations help keep things moving in the right direction. I keep contact in some small way like a little note.

I have a feeling many of the correspondence of mine comes from gentlemen who are doing the same with other ladies. This might be happening to you as well. They may want to see you but are also interested in other ladies as well and have a priority list. I hate the thought that you may be getting a lot of NSNC which is not acceptable.  

As Kelley mentioned screening yourself to rule out men that may be time-wasters or are more likely to show up. I'll send you a note on a good site that will help you with screening. I'm really getting more involved in screening for my safety and has helped with the amount of people who cancel last minute. I seldom have cancellations because I have become more picky myself ... Thank you Kelly for making me understand that awhile back.

Sending you a note

Kisses Haley

I live in a very nice area in very nice condo

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Huh? What r u talking about? I'm confused? There isn't a cop drpt across the street..  

this world I think I can honestly say I have only had a couple of NCNS. Pretty good odds actually and for that
I am thankful.

For me, I have a policy that is on my site and at bottom of my email, that it won't be tolerated.  Feel free to
look at it and use it for yourself if you would like. It really does help sway guys from not doing that.

Personally, I would email and ask what happened? Be polite in all correspondence. Hopefully you will get an  
answer.  For sure if you don't get an answer give it a reasonable amount of time then inform other
ladies.  Most people know those sites, but if you would like to know feel free to email me.  That info
I will not put on the board.

Good luck.

Makenzie

Contacting other providers on the details? are you verifying???
also YES!!! Contact the NSNC and ask why try to get a cancellation fee..
also PUT IN YOUR TEXT!!!
"  PLEASE BE RESPECTFUL of my time when booking your appt"

My assistant send a appt reminder message a day in advance!!!
That is being TOtally DISRESPECTFUL

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in selecting guys. First sign of a guy not giving a care about my needs in email is an automatic fail. Once he starts getting skittish, I move on.

BUT - I will say, there are certain triggers that we may be putting in our ads that cause for trolls, NCNS, etc. or during our communication that can cause people to target and bully us. A lot of those triggers come out of having an empathetic and compassionate nature, for fear of hurting anyone's feelings, including the feelings of those who are out to fuck us over.

With the amount of exposure we have, our communication triggers reactions in not only good people, but also disrespectful people.  

As much as what was said could be a slap in the face to someone who is sensitive, it is good advice. A higher standard for oneself doesn't mean anyone is lower or higher, as much as it is - being a woman, we know what it's like to desire to be be nurturing to all in many cases. What I feel is being communicated is "Don't be afraid of hurting other people's feelings and telling them to fuck off if they show any sign of disrespect."

Best advice I've ever gotten is to have the ability to say "fuck off" to people who won't cherish what I have to offer. And though it sounds harsh, in the long run, those who actually show up get a happier escort - these time wasters and trolls don't only take from the escort, but they also take from those she is serving. This is not good, as the desire for the woman is to give her all at all times.

So - the fact that anyone is offering advice and understanding - is a compliment and encouragement, as they see a part of themselves in the person they're giving advice to.

Client sets an appointment, but disappears - I cancel it and take someone else who knows how to communicate.

I look at people and how they show patterns of flakey guys. Over time, I've learned to notice trigger words and habits, and end up telling them we're not a good match. I'm sure I've weeded out a couple of good ones this way, but life is so much easier knowing someone will show up.

Nowadays, if the guy is asking for a discount - I know it's an automatic no, so I don't even answer anymore. This happens at all ends of the spectrum - less when you are exposed to a smaller market, which is nice.. but I still get these assholes in my inbox a lot, and I just delete and block them.

If a guy asks for a discount, you say no, he still obliges you can expect 1 of 2 things. 1: He'll find someone else in the meantime to give him a discount, or 2: He will see you and then knock you in your reviews. Every-single-time.

If a guy asks you to do something you have clearly stated you don't do, (for instance, notice requirements, bypassing your screening methods, or asking special that was last week,) it shows entitlement. I.e. your needs couldn't be further from his mind. Next.

If a guy (or girl, let's include female hobbyists! lol) takes more than THREE emails to decide what the fuck he's going to do, he's canned immediately - super duper high sign of flakiness.

If a guy degrades my decisions in advertising, prices, location, looks, dress, (especially if he demands crazy outfit requests with no notice,) he will NOT show up. He will only show up if we apologize to him and act like we're sorry we ever didn't do what he wanted, even though we didn't know him. (He is interviewing us to see where our confidence is at, and if he can take more and more advantage over time. i.e. how influenceable we are,) If he sees we don't take his "fatherly pimpy advice," he's on to the next. (Ego/control thing.)

Let's see.. what else do I have in my bucket of "typical hassle clients" ---

Oh! The hour long phone interview to see if you're his "type" for an hour appointment. I especially love those guys. You spend an hour giving him attention, and he changes his mind. (The interview usually is him scoping to see how tolerant you are of wasted time, to see if he can milk time during the appointment.)

If you have a certain way communicated in your marketing/advertising, and someone goes out of their way because "you're so special to him", to get you to make an exception just for him, he is entitled, and he is lying. There are tons of us around - and he should find someone more like-minded. (Even though it has nothing to do with that, and all to do with that lots of guys are playing games just to get free female attention, even if it's just emails. These "make an exception for me" requests are simply to create a dialogue.)

Let me give you an example. I had two guys book fake travel dates, ask me to hold dates, JUST so I would follow them on Twitter! I though it was so lame lol! They didn't put down a deposit, so obviously they were just trying to get a follower, but...

 
Just a few little signs that have proven time and again to be upsetting situations, and insulting, and also took a hit on my bank account.

(Email only is also a great trick - weeds out all the wankers who want free phone sex, but I do understand it does cause some guys to fall off the planet.)

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