Ladies, is staying with one provider something that is appreciated?
I do, not only because I have a first class relationship with her, but also it is less risker.
What do you think?

Your rationale makes little to no sense to me.  The 1 provider you have reviewed has 140 reviews on TER.  Take into account the majority of clients do NOT review providers, and the number of clients your provider has likely seen is in the 500-1000 range.  I'm not passing judgement, as I enjoy the hobby, just merely stating facts.  You feel that is a less risky approach, then perhaps seeking a low volume provider or one who is newer to the game?  And if you only see 1 provider, why even bother being on TER?  Makes no sense to me.
If you want a batter chance at low risk play, I recommend the SB route.  It took me a while, but I found a dandy and haven't actively hobbied since...

Let me first say that I am a very skeptical person, by nature.

You could tell me I'm the only one, but how do I know that's true?? So I take such proclamations with a HUGE dash of salt.

Perhaps I am just too jaded, but in my personal experience virtually every gentleman caller who professed to faithfulness was looking for some sort of VIP treatment from me.  So if someone were to tell me that today, I would immediately be on my guard, waiting for the other shoe to drop.  

If I DO believe that I really am the only one (for the time being....) and nothing "extra" was expected from me....  I suppose I might feel flattered and would appreciate it as the sincere compliment it is.  

Unless you're paying her to only see you, which I'm sure won't be cheap.

I personally suggest if you get attached easily, to rotate at least one other provider in the mix.

There are also options for non monogamous arrangements, where she may take a monthly premium if you see her often. I've done it, where it's paid at the beginning of the month each month, and benefits us both by a monthly set amount for me, and some dollars chipped off for him if he likes extended dates, or likes to mix it up.  

 
It boggles my mind that a guy would be worried what we think. And not in a mean way, in a logical way.
We are running a business. While I'm finding I truly love the physical attention, the fun of meeting people, and the lifestyle, I wouldn't be in it if it weren't a business, and didn't make a reasonable profit. So it's business. My job. So I serve you a product that you pay for. (Though I choose to be with respectful, kind men.)

On the contrary, If you're looking for a certain TYPE of provider, who takes on a more "exclusive" approach, where she has a circle of trusted regulars and doesn't see many newbies, that makes sense. Somewhat of a courtesan approach.. Or a sugar baby type escort, where the relationship is one developed over time.

 
There are many different styles of relationships ladies like to take on. Some like all different guys, some like a mix of regulars and newbies, some like a circle of friends, and some are looking for a single sugar daddy.

Some can't stand longer than one hour with each guy, some heavily encourage longer dates.

 
So... I guess all that to ask,  Are you seeing someone you're interested in being your only escort, or are you asking as a general question? You'll get a different answer from many ladies... And perhaps some may say "see anyone and everyone!" While steaming every time a reference request comes through. (I've had guys back out of dates due to ladies contacting him after I've asked for a request... And gone back to see her. It does happen, but i haven't seen it a whole lot. Many ladies I know pass guys around and suggest each other lol.)

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The SB route is awesome.  My SB is separated from her husband, has a good job in real life, and just needs money for those "extras."

Downside:  Valentine's Day, birthdays, Christmas, etc.

To the Provider it's much appreciated. Because to them you're only seeing them and no other Provider. If she does everything you want at the price you can afford, then why see any other Provider? Although it's a good idea to have at least one or two Providers you can see in case your favorite gal isn't available.  

As far as Risk, there is no Risk. She knows you and you know her. So there's an element of Trust between you.

I hear ya brother man!  I was choosy, and it took a long time to find, but WELL worth it.  Mine is a full time student, freshman in college, and works part time.  She doesn't drink, smoke anything, and isn't interested in men her age.  It works out perfectly, and we have become really close friends.  But you are right, Xmas and other holidays can be pricey.  But worth every penny to have a SB who isn't active outside of our arrangement.

You don't...you just hope she isn't.

That's fine...enjoy your ride while it lasts.

I trust you are being careful as well...aren't you?  I know she isn't seeing anyone else...nor are you...but just in case either/both of you are..be smart  

BTW...just because a gal has 100+ reviews certainly doesn't put any john at a higher risk than the game you're playing.  Probably less so since you know the gal with all those reviews is being smart and careful.  The sb OTOH you have NO idea how many others she's got a similar deal going with.  

Sometimes guys can be such delusional fools  LOL

A Provider you're seeing likes to think she's the only one you're seeing. Nothing wrong with seeing other Providers on the side. It's good to have a few in the stable in case you can't see your favorite.

Sounds like someone is a bit jealous over there!  Um, we live very close to each other, spend lots of time together beyond sex , have taken her to and from school/work numerous times.  If she isn't working or at class, she's basically with me or at her mom's (where she lives, only 18).  She doesn't have a car or drive, so she isn't very mobile.  Doesn't party like a typical 18 year old, never drinks or smokes anything.  She comes over often just to study at my place to get out of her house, we go to movies, dinner quite frequently.  She has mentioned she would like to date for real, and do away with the SB/SD arrangement, but I told her we should wait a few more months before we go down that road.  Want her to be sure.  A couple times she hasn't even taken the money I've left her.  When we first started having sex, it was OBVIOUS that she didn't have much experience in bed. (if any of you fellas have been there, you know exactly what I'm talking about).  Claims to have been with 3 guys ever before me.  I doubted, but after being with her, I think she might have stretched her number if anything.

Dr Who Revived, you are a pompous presumptuous douche bag.  I've been with providers who are VERY highly reviewed on TER, and who list no CIM on their sites or on TER, and 2 of them have OFFERED ME cim AND bbfs for an added rate.  I'm not saying all do, likely a very small minority, but they are out there.  Just cause a site says "i do this i don't do that", don't kid yourself you moron.  But from what I can tell from your post, and your TER handle, you've probably never had sex outside of a provider in your life!

you are most likely to a provider just a client, a costumer, an account. I always smile when I remember what one of my favorite providers told me when I mentioned to her that I would be seeing one of her friends (also a provider) the following week. She told me with a grim on her face ' now you are going to give her MY money'

So this 18 y/o is enamored with an old fart like you?  Good for you  LOL

So I still would like to know how or why YOU think she isn't having a "good" time with those college boys.  You don't...and she sure as hell isn't going to tell you since you're paying for her to buy her stuff.  She's no dummie  LOL

Glad you've actually seen some of the gals here on TER.  Not sure what your definition of "highly reviewed" is...but I will agree that many of them have different levels of service for some of "us".  Maybe you're actually part of this "us" I allude to?

And your final comment speaks more to your insecurity about not paying for sex than anything.  Hopefully one day some woman somewhere will actually enjoy your company sans money.

She is lovable.

If nothing else it's very flattering.  We're human after all, we like people who like us.  
I especially like people that I know especially like me

Very, very well said Rod.....

You summed it up exactly the way I see it. I get a laugh out of those who profess how this is only a business and providers don't care about anything but the $$$$. I'm sure that's true in many cases but the jealousy or resentment that develops when an ATF starts getting reference requests from other providers, especially those at higher price points, is proof that a provider's sense of self-worth is hurt when we begin seeing others who charge more.

Maybe I'm wrong, maybe it's the loss of $$$ that breeds resentment or hurt but I think it's more of a personal rejection type of hurt, the same hurt that's felt by people passed over for promotions or those who get lousy raises or find out that their supposedly equal peer makes a lot more than them. This last point is key. You're being told you're the best he's had and how much he values you and then he goes off and pays someone else more $$$ or gives them more attention and asks you, the supposed ATF for a reference to see someone who he'll pay more to but not that much to you. This is only human nature and it's true in every facet of life. People want to feel valuable no matter what their line of work. In this biz, the intimacy involved makes that sense of self-worth much more important. But this very aspect is in direct conflict with the point of this hobby - being able to be intimate with more than one person without jealousy or hurt feelings. It's certainly nowhere near as bad as civvie relationships but those same feelings come up in this hobby as well.

That would be a test of epic proportions. She hasn't taken some money he's left her - when has that ever happened in this hobby, lol? Sure, she could be doing guys her own age and he wouldn't know but if he's spending so much time with her, she'd have to go out of her way to cheat on him.

I know this blows your mind but maybe this girl is more mature than her years and actually likes the older guy. Amazing huh? Not really, most guys her age are lazy douchebag losers with no jobs and girls pick up on that really fast. No girl wants to be with a guy who's a lazy ass in or out of the hobby. Oops, let me correct that last statement. There are many more providers with lazy douchebag SO's in this hobby than in civvie life. That shit doesn't cut it in real life. Get a job and be a real man if you want to win a woman's heart

Being a one woman man with a provider is kind of ironic.  She's boffing anyone who can pony up the donation and you're supposed to be loyal.  Be rational and keep your wits about you, have fun explore and keep a small circle of providers that you like to spend time with.  Don't forget that when all is said and done the provider is in it to make money.

there is less of a chance his personal information will be compromised.  If his information is in many providers phones, the chances that the information gets into the wrong hands multiplies.

I think, "Nice, so those are my peers.  They're damned fine!"

He pays them more because that's their rate.  He also pays my rate...  No clue why that would hurt my feelings...

That's what they're paying for, to walk away debt-free every time.

Be generous when you're enjoying it and want to right then, but otherwise don't.  Tell them and yourself that you can't because you don't want to feel like they owe you anything.

You feel ripped off because you're making investments in a place where records aren't allowed.

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think about it.

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I guarantee if you left a date early, full payment would have been expected on your part. I'm sure she won't be reviewed, but any other dude would have been glad to review that. For her sake, probably smart never to do that again, lest someone updates a review.

Sucks Rod, sorry that happened. I understand if someone crushes and has to leave early, but from what I'm reading, this would have been a case for a full refund, to avoid a bad rep.

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