I've noticed that sometimes a provider will quote a certain donation on her own website, but a different one on another site, such as p411. If we make a date, and never discuss the donation, what should I assume is the amount I should include? Does it make me look like a cheapskate if I go with the lower of the two rates? Is is possible that one of the rates is out-of-date and she hasn't gotten around to changing it?

I don't think so. I offer an incentive for P411 members yet to receive it, the appointment has to come through that site.
There is no need to discuss it.

Yes to all of the above. She may be unaware of the difference if she has many sites to update and post. This is often time consuming and yes it is confusing to say the least. I would definitively get business out of the way first. Why let $25 to $50 bucks spoil a great time together.  

And Just a little tip........If you decide to just go ahead and give her the higher rate,  I would put it in the bathroom where she can excuse herself to freshen up and count the donation. You will be pleasantly surprised when she has had time to do this. A little bit go a long way...........................Believe me when I say this, or at least it has for me. Jingle Bells! Kelley

Kelly,

This post sounds more up-beat than your other.. Hope you are doing OK... And all goes well.... Everyone needs a person to talk to..

Some of the more assy guys will tell you to pay the lower rate since it's her job to cover her bases, and well, lesson learned, right? You could argue that in principle, but some of those ads and websites may have been posted by former agencies/pimps/assistants without her knowledge or access. Or, she may simply be disorganized. But I just don't see how nickel and diming her will get you the session you want. I suppose some guys get off on giving the ladies a hard time.  

Be the gentleman and clear up any discrepancies before you're in the door.

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i always ask in those cases just to prevent any embarrassment. Never assume. Ask discretly in a separate email.

Mr. Cocktail, I just have to mention I love reading your post. Straight and to the point. Reminds me of my Twin Brother.........LOL Kelley