to NOT thank a client for a tip?

As a provider I've never had the expectation that a client of mine would tip.  What a nice gesture you made hopefully because you had a wonderful time.  I can't understand why on earth if you left a tip that it was not acknowledged and you being properly thanked.   Even if the provider didn't want to handle the donation in your presence (which is understandable), she most likely checked it after you left and could have phoned or texted a BIG OLE THANK YOU!

I know they are lying, but, hell, it is still nice to hear...

it if the fee was, let's say. $350 and  I gave her $360 because I didnt have exact change but...

I bet she'll show her appreciation on your return visit. Keep in mind that in the interests of discretion, many ladies will not reply unless you initiate contact first, even just to say thank you. That said, I believe it would be poor manners to write her, "did you get my fucking tip you ungrateful bitch!"

-- Modified on 4/12/2014 1:14:26 PM

LOL.

I'm a (female) client, not a provider.
I'm also new here.
I pay $80 for a mani/pedi and tip $20 for Just doing their job and not fucking up, more when they do above and beyond.  

Hey, I'm only carrying hundreds, what's a gentleman to do? Ladies, keep it in mind when you're setting your prices.

-- Modified on 4/12/2014 5:41:31 PM

Good advice!
(Smart and generous - I like you style

it was more than $10.

I've left a few tips in the envelope and once left a $50 Starbucks card for a coffee addict.  No acknowledgement of any sort.  I've even seen one of these ladies again.  They've pretty much killed any ideas of tipping again.

Just about every provider I have ever seen has thanked me, tip notwithstanding. If she didn't thank me it was because I walked out or beat a hasty retreat.  

appreciated but NOT expected. As an independent, although my consideration may be listed on here on my TER profile, I do observe the "competitive" going rate in cities I tour. If that means I have to offer a slight discount to have interest I do. When friends "tip" me, it is always so appreciated but certainly not expected. It shows me that my new friend or even my regulars appreciate my service and understand that traveling has it's own expenses. I don't treat my friends that don't "tip" any different though, I still do appreciate that you reached out to get to know me and I can add you into my friendship circle.  
Lastly, "tipping" doesn't have to come in paper form, it can be simple: sometimes I ask if you can bring a bottle of water, or a bottle of wine for us to share, a snack,  etc

Afterwards, since that is when I find out about their generosity
I am very thankful for the fact that he chose to spend his time with me to begin with
xox

I usually tip 50. and give gifts... I always thought most hobbyists tipped!!

Unless they acted like an ass during our date and got put on my DNS again list. That's only happened once this year.



Steph

-- Modified on 4/14/2014 11:39:15 AM

I always try to bring some kind of gift. If I can, I'll give extra as a "tip". Unfortunately, I don't always have enough available for a tip, especially since I sometimes have to dip into several "sources" to make the donation. Either way, gift or tip, I really don't expect a thank you.  
Do you ladies prefer a "tip" over a gift?
I have a couple of gifts in mind for an upcoming special event...lol

I can understand your frustration! Upon reflection I tend to shy away from any financial discussion whenever possible myself (which, for better or for worse, includes tips). I usually always thank my clients, but it's for the time they spent with me since I value our time together incredibly and want to make sure I convey it! However, a tip is an unexpected bonus that makes me feel appreciated above and beyond, even if I don't thank specifically for the tip since it's financial. It adds to my experience with you not because of the finances, but as a token of appreciation, so I don't tend to mention it separately! Upon reading the responses, I gather this might be a slightly different perspective on the matter.

I had an appointment with you and the fee was $$$$ and (FOR EXAMPLE i'm not saying I did this) I gave you $$$$$$$$.

Although there have been exceptions. You are very welcome

Did you tip out of appreciation or because you wanted to see her go out of her way to kiss your ass? You haven't even provided any context. Did you slip her four bennys when she expected 3.5? How kind, I'm sure you'll be at the top of her reply list if you come a-calling. Now, if you paid off her credit card balance, then she should give you a big fucking thank you.

And that once was me ;o)

I will always thank someone for a good/great/wonderful time. I'll thank them for choosing me to send their time (and the obvious) with me.  
If the tip is separate from the envelope I will say thank you and let them know they didn't have to add a tip. Whether it's 10 dollars or a thousand I will thank you and wish you a safe trip home.  

and being so concerned about my post.

That's sorry as shit.