I agree with you. If I am not ripped off, i.e. cash and dash, bait and switch, 60 minutes becomes 30 minutes, I get upsold, she noshows, etc.... and a lady wishes not to be reviewed, then I will honor her request. If I am not ripped off and I am requested NOT to write a review, I won't write it.

I also don't want to get into the 'Who is this board for' agrument, because the concept may have been that it was for the gentlemen of the hobby, but the reality is that it is also for the ladies of the hobby.

Reminds me of all those people trying to ban porn, if you don't want to look at it, then don't go into a porn shop and don't rent any porn movies. Bottom line is, if you don't want to see a lady that hasn't been reviewed, then don't see any ladies that haven't been reviewed. It's a free market, made up of adults with free will. I say, as old fashioned as it is, it's the ladies choice and I will respect it.  

And Lilly dear, you are a special treat. Men are animals, there was a time when we were hunters, warriors, we pursued each other in games of strength and endurance to win the favors of beautiful females like yourself. In this day and age, we are certainly not what we were, can you imagine most of your clients shooting their dinner and starting a fire with a couple of sticks? lmao Me neither.... most would starve lol

However, we men are creatures of habit and instinct, so just as our ancesters did years ago after a hunt, we pound our chests, brag about our conquests, talk about our prowess knowing that the fun is in the telling of the story and not in the actual living of it. If the truth be known........ how embarassing would that be.............

"No" means "No".  As in, "No kissing", "No touching", "No daty", "No BJ" ...  As in "No f-in fun".  This is exactly what we want to know about.

"No" means "No" - we are not talking about rape.  Or are we ? I feel I've been raped (out of some hard earned $$$) on 3 occassions and wished somebody wrote a review.

If every provider who provided a mediocre experience said "No" and we had to respect that (we're not playing tag and she can say time out - Oh, but I guess we are playing tag) then how would we know.  I'm not looking for a mediocre time.

In regards to the original post it seems that the provider may be sincere (since she contacted the guy and asked his oppinion) so I would not review.  Seems to me that there can be no general protocol - I go by how sincere I feel the person is.

Please forgive me - I know I'm not so mature (not a flame - just thought it tied in).  

Oy Vey..just when I thought I could sneak out of here, un-noticed lol ;)

Early gooood morning, everyone! lol Yes, I read your posting, Lilly, and it was true: Actually, it was 3 times, and one of them was from a guy who tried to repost a review (same one, mind you), 2 times months apart.

Because of the fact, that I am low-volume, I know who I meet, when, where, how long our session was, etc., lol So, that is why I am able to spot a "fake", when it's up. Trust me, gentlemen, I will out those, who do do this. I chose to do this publicly (in conjunction of letting TER know of this matter),  in order to get my voice heard, when back channeling falls through the cracks. Also, I am a paying member of TER, and I believe my voice should be heard.

I will admit, I would like myself getting less reviews. I want to add as well, that I am not seeking to have 10 + pages of reviews, that sound repetitive. Again, that makes me look like I am high-volume, which I am not (nor, aim to be). I also want to add, that my statement is my personal view, and it is not a pun towards anyone. I no longer ask for reviews. If a guy would like to do one, I would hope that he ask for my permission first (which, I will say 90% do, thanks gents!), before placing the review. This should be done, out of respect, for I have never ever disrespected client in any way, shape or form. Now, I will probably get some grumbling (please stop throwing popcorn at me, dagnabbit lol) from some of the men on the board about my request, but that is how I feel, and I don't feel the need to sugarcoat it

Anyways, I am done with this subject, and I hope that people can grow from everyone's perspective on this issue.

meow and kisses,

Mel







-- Modified on 9/10/2003 8:08:45 AM

First and foremost, the point about the number of reviews required to keep a VIP status does not sit well with me either...I WAS a VIP on the "other" board and when the mandate came down and the rules were changed I opted out..because my reviews will come only when I believe they will provide value and quality to both the hobbyists and the providers.

On the subject of "trashing" someone for a poor session, I simply will post..."was not my cup of tea"....most should be able to read into that one.......

On reviews in general, I believe that discretion and respect are the guidelines that should be used in writing a review....like everything in life, not evey provider is appealing to all hobbyists and vice versa, not every hobbyist is enjoyed by every provider.

There are far too many good times out there to get hung up on the one or two disgruntled folks who would start trouble even if they were in a room by themselves..LOL

Practice the hobby with discretion and respect and use the same mantra in your reviews and converstaions..I know, I know, that's naive..but in an ideal world wouldn't that be be nice to have it as the norm....moving a mountain starts with moving a stone at a time.

More than my 2 cents

Take care and stay
OR

-- Modified on 9/10/2003 6:32:39 AM

Great point Lilly!

Posting reviews to keep your VIP status alive is not a very good principle. I must own up to the fact that I don't pay for my membership here, but I won't post a review just to keep it alive. When I was a newbie I did, and I regret doing the reviews of the ladies that really didn't want them just to keep seeing the juicy details.

I think the other board made a very bad choice in how to choose their VIP's. Having a paid membership seems o'k, but building up reviews and worthless posts just to get a gold moniker is deterimental to the accuracy of sharing info.

I think the requirements for details is also a problem. Yes I want to know CBJ or BBBJ, DFK or not, but almost every review I write gets rejected at least once before it's posted (some have been rejected 3 or 4 times). I'm forced to keep adding details until it is finally accepted. I beleive there is enough info in the pulldown section of the review sheet, so having to go into graphic details serves no real purpose.

If a woman asks specifically not to be reviwed I won't. If no request is made and either her service is well above my expectations and she is fairly new, or a complete rip-off, I will usually post a review. If things didn't go my way and it was a matter of us just not clicking I won't. YMMV is a big veriable in this hobby. You never really know if someone your visiting just had a complete A-hole experience before you or not, and there has certainly been times I have arrived after a stressfully day without my A game.

Play Safe, NHughty

SO, you equate reviews with responsibility?  Interesting concept.  Sorta like saying condoms are good when used for water balloons.

Catch my drift?  Probably not, but I did not catch yours either.

We love you, Thirsty! :)

You are the best Mod, ever! I do agree with you on the content of the posts, and I have to give everyone a pat on the back, for being respectful towards one another on this issue (I hope that I didn't say this toooooooooooo soon, for it is still early in the day LOL).

Hugs,

Mel

I had a person back channel me regarding reviews i will not mention names that provider told me that gents can post a review as long as they are granted permission which i think is totally wrong

I agree with Jill that reviews are important because i want to know if a girl is GFE and gives a CBJ or a BBBJ when you are client you have the right to know that helps prevent confussion when i read reviews and CBJ is described i close the review and move on

Ultimatly i think it is up to the client not the provider
but the client should take in to consideration what the lady is saying
hogan

as in Spinal Tap!

Reviews are really not that difficult to write if the reviewer follows TER's structure and guidelines, and uses some common sense.  In my own case, I have been writing employee reviews for more than twenty years and that experience helps me in writing the provider reviews. I was a TER VIP member until recently and enjoyed the reviews in the Juicy Details area by some well regarded hobbyists.  Like one of the posters mentioned in this thread, it is difficult to ask frank questions and get straight answers when one contacts a provider for the first time.  I am glad to say that I have had good luck on the very first date with providers I met after reading their reviews on this and the other board.  This is in stark contrast to my experiences with the rip-off artists I frequently encountered through the Boston Phoenix Ads before these boards came along.  After the first date, I form my own opinion about the extent to which a provider met my expectations, and if I feel like contributing a review about my experience with her, I do so in an honest manner.