Yesterday, I had spoken to a provider, one known to post here and generally well-regarded, and arranged a meeting today.
I was given a public destination from which to contact, and asked to call 10 minutes before the appointment, when the provider would then tell me the final location.
I called, at 10 of the apponted hour. Voicemail
I called again, 5 of. VM.
Again, at the appointed hour. VM
At 10 after the hour. Voicemail full, you can leave a page.
At 15 after, with no response, I drove for home.
I still haven't got a callback.
Am I in the wrong to want to know what happened and why I was stood up?
-TakaSe
No, you are not wrong to want to know why. I know that there have been a very few occaissions where I have had a true emergency (family or otherwise) which created a similar situation.
IF this provider is truly upscale and well regarded then my guess is something happened to cause the no-show. I did this to someone for a 5:30am appointment, but I made it up to the client by offering him twice the time for a reduced donation.
Write her an email..
I shall do just that. Thanks for the advice - I understand about the wonderful machinations of Murphy's Law... Personally I often think Murph was an optimist.
If the lady who I missed today reads this... I sent a rather irritated PM when I got home, for which I apologize. I got caught in Rush Hour and was mad. Please PM me - I want if nothing else to make sure that nothing happened to you.
-T
Interesting response by you. We had an appointment scheduled and you had an emergency. Yes, I did call several times prior to and at the appointment time. I also called after the scheduled appointment with a genuine interest for your well being as we had spoken on several occasions. What I got from you is far different than what you express here. In addition, you also emailed me after this incident using one of the other services to let me know of your schedule. I returned the email explaining who I was and never heard from you again. Just pointing out differences with your current thought process and your actions of the past.
I doubt you'll get a reply as to why you got stood up. Hopefully you do though.
The provider has a right to stand us hobbyists up. They can do anything they want, and we can't write about it, because then we are crap.
Good luck.
well here i go again it is very un professional to stand a client up i do realize that maybe a family emergency came up or maybe she got sick or something but if anything i believe you deserve an apoligy. wait a few days before you do anything i know you said you wrote a angry pm remember this in the future this goes for everyone a friend told me one time
UN SPOKEN ANGER IS NEVER REGREATED
If she does not respond to you with an explanation with in a week then i would post a review as a no show because that is in excuseable she at the very least owes you an explanation
if she responds with a genuine reason well forgive and forget and try to reschedule maybe she'll discount it for you
well good luck
just my .02
ps this is the very reason i do not give deposits
hogan
No one likes to be stood up and remember it does work both ways providers also get stood up. Sometimes there are legitimite reasons and other times there are not. Shit happens thats we cannot always control. These things happen to providers as well as hobbyiest. As a provider I am very understanding. I will confess that I actually stood 2 people up recently. 1 was legitimate and the other I was totally irresponsible and I called and told the man the truth. I gave my word to make good on the fact that I was irresponsible and I did. A costly lesson for me since I had to set up a private incall. I feel that if you are stood up your time is just as valuable as mine and you should be compensated for it. Ironduke, if you feel you have been wronged as it sounds like you have you should not be afraid to say something, just my opinion. Some of us providers will admit when we wrong as I have just did. Remember we are human and make mistakes. As a reader of the board, I will agree that sometimes men take abuse for stating their opinions on certain matters and in some cases they are right. So I can see where you may come up with your statement Ironduke. But I also feel that if you have a problem you should voice it. By not voicing it you may be providing a disservice to other hobbyiest.