It is becoming increasingly apparent that some of my fellow hobbysts are lacking in the area of manners and decorum.
Guys, I am the first one to complain when I get involved in a less than quality date. I have even (much to my dismay and untimate dread) discussed an incident or two on this board. In actual point of fact, we are VERY lucky with the quality of providers (both independant and agency based) in the New England Area. Bad providers have the professional lifespan of a lollipop in a grade school play yard. Good providers enjoy a good income and a loyal following.
Now folks, here is my observation. When you see a provider, you really should be treating her like a warm, loving girlfriend and not a piece of choice-cut steak from the market. Yes, yes, I know everyone of you is saying right now, "The SOB, where does this asshole get off telling me this!". Well, the fact of the matter is, some of us DO treat the ladies like meat and not as a warm, lovely human being.
Yes, they are getting paid for their service, but would you treat your doctor, lawyer, or other professional with less than acceptable manners and decorum. These professionals get paid handsomely for their services and we would NEVER consider being rude, impolite, or show up unbathed! So why would one not take the same care and consideration with someone who is going to be intimate with you.
I have recently read postings and reviews on this and other boards from hobbysts that have hinted at abuse, disrespect, sloveness ("dirty" for the folks in Dracut) and down right contempt. These postings/reviews have made me shudder at times thinking about the situation of many of the providers I have the good fortune to see. One provider (nameless at her request) was recently abused physically a day before I saw her by a guy three times her size because he didn't like the fact that she spoke with a slight speech impedement and he thought she was being disrespectful.
In short, we complain about verification and security that these women have to use to protect themselves, but on the other hand some of our brethern are the exact source of this requirement. I have one provider I have been trying to see now for over a year, but her fear of these problems is such that I haven't past muster yet to see her. I'm not upset with her, but I am upset with the disrespect, lack of manners and missing decorum that drove her to these standards of protection.
I have no cure for these issues, but would like to make a request of my brother hobbysts to take a little extra time from now on to treat our providers just a little bit better. Small gifts, kind words, gentlemanly manners and a hint of refinement is going to go a long, long way for us as a group with these lovely ladies.
Remember, it is SOOOOO easy to be a bit nicer and it is SOOOO unnecessary to be an asshole. Nicer gets you better, assholes are usually shown the door.
That's just my opinion and I could be wrong.
Regards to all,
Warm kisses to the ladies,
I am out of here ...
Loarthan
No you aqre not worng at all, but let us remeber that everything that you sugguest is a two way street.
so that she won't get jaded along the way. It will be a loss to this hobby if that happened.
I think that most of us do not need to be lectured on this topic, and those that do will not take your advice even if they bothered to read your narrative. Bad hobbyists, like bad providers, are marked accordingly. Although I have never been there, I believe that is one of the reasons for the provider board, at least it should be. I tend to be more professional in my hobbying. It is a business, and those of us that lose sight of that fact usually have rude awakenings. But as a good customer, I always respect the provider, and any rules that are established. If she, or the rules, do not mesh with my wants, then it is time to look elsewhere. Just like with any other item I purchase, I want it to meet my needs, wants and desires. Just my .02 worth.
... for the ladies it's a business.
That's why I think a bit more decorum is necessary.
While I am at it, we need to take ourselves a bit less seriously or our Type-A personalities are going to kill us with the stress.
Just my opinion and I could be wrong.
Regards,
Loarthan
Your right, you also get a better session if you treat her right. That's a fact. Some providers like you to trash talk them, but it's part of the play.