I've rarely had this happen, but being that it just did; what is it with providers that don't give references? Refuse to! I'm asking respectfully as I am Hoping to gain a better understanding as to why this is :-/ anyone who knows me, whether Indy, agency, or client, knows that I'm more than happy to provide a reference when it's deserved. Hell, I'll even point a gentleman in another providers direction and loose a profit if it means suggesting someone I know of that will meet his needs & desires. I have no problem keeping it real, I think people respect that most. I'm a firm believer that us girls should stick together in this sense... Smh enlighten me lol
Xoxo, Bonnie

Thankfully I haven't encountered that issue very often, but sadly it does happen sometimes. I think some providers are just afraid of losing business. They think if I guy has money to spend, then he should be spending it on them.  What's really annoying is when those same providers then turn around and ask you for a reference. :/

Obviously no idea if this could be it, but in another thread I read recently, someone pointed out the possibility that a provider who couldn't give a good reference might just refuse to give any reference, to avoid any potential drama with the client or something from a bad reference.  i.e. Adam wants to see Becca, uses Clarice as a reference, Clarice tells Becca that Adam has halitosis, Becca tells Adam that she won't see him, either says why or says something that he concludes is the halitosis thing, creates drama for Clarice when Adam goes postal and texts 100s of times claiming continuous IV injections of Listerine, or whatever.

Almost all providers demand references which is reasonable and generally acceptable, Yet I have encountered a couple who either refuse or are reluctant to return the courtesy. In that case I never see that provider, or in one case, agency again. In those cases where the reference was not given it was not a result of something I did, turns out to be the provider/agency policy.

To that end, he should be assured she will give him a reference for a specific provider, which provider will then contact her about him.

i agree with Mr. Fisher, but also think that it is fair game that if a provider doesn't want to give them, and it is 100% in her right, then it is fair game to let others know before they sign up for a session and then find out that a reference is not available.

When it does, I simply ask for another reference if he can provide one. More times than not, he can. It's part of the biz unfortunately, and while I will agree with you that women should all be on the same page in this regard for safety reasons alone, it's not always that simple.  

I've had that happen once to me...after giving a reference I never heard from her again.  I asked a regular if mine if she'd care to give a reference.  She told me, "absolutely...and a very good one at that!"   Ever since then I have tried to see her but haven't anything from her.  Oh well...maybe she's no longer in the area.

Ty darling! And ty all for the input! Muahhh xoxo  

Posted By: Taylor48

When it does, I simply ask for another reference if he can provide one. More times than not, he can. It's part of the biz unfortunately, and while I will agree with you that women should all be on the same page in this regard for safety reasons alone, it's not always that simple.  
   
 Good luck to you Bonnie, just keep smiling    
   
 Taylor  
   

Posted By: alexandria_xoxo

I've rarely had this happen, but being that it just did; what is it with providers that don't give references? Refuse to! I'm asking respectfully as I am Hoping to gain a better understanding as to why this is :-/ anyone who knows me, whether Indy, agency, or client, knows that I'm more than happy to provide a reference when it's deserved. Hell, I'll even point a gentleman in another providers direction and loose a profit if it means suggesting someone I know of that will meet his needs & desires. I have no problem keeping it real, I think people respect that most. I'm a firm believer that us girls should stick together in this sense... Smh enlighten me lol  
  Xoxo, Bonnie

You'd think we should all have each other's 6. It's just that simple!

Absolutely beautiful! I couldn't agree more!  

Blowing out another gals candle doesn't make ours shine brighter  FACT

Blowing out a guy's candle does .... hmmmm ....  
you're both soooo good at that trick.

Good point lol