A provider I saw recently related a story to me about a guy she saw the previous day. She had never seen him before.
The first thing this this guy does after the donation is settled,is ram his tongue down her throat.IMO that's about as rude as gets,and we wonder why so many won't kiss.He also did a couple other things that were worse,but I can't put those down here.
I guess I'm naive or something because the thing I'm about to tell these boorish types seems like common sense and comes natural to me.
When I'm with a lady for the first time and I know she is open to DFK,I always start with some KWT,she will let you know soon enough if she wants to move on from there.
I dated a woman once(I'm talking ancient history here)who didn't like to DFK,but she was a very passionate KWT.I prefer DFK but I still enjoy a good KWT.
So my advice to these boors is put down porn and read a book on sensuality.Some how I doubt it will do any good. So in the meantime keep a leash on the snake tongue!!!
It goes to the simple term of "respect" -- you used the correct term in the first place: a "lady". Unfortunately, this stuff does happen and it can "sour" and harden a lady quite rapidly so that soon everyone suffers. The ladies are not a piece of property - I seriously doubt that the "gentleman" would try to do something like that to a new acquaintence at a cocktail or Christmas party. There are, however, two sides to the coin (and this does NOT forgive or pass off the guys antics) and there are some ladies that certainly feel that their clients are nothing more than a dollar sign. Fortunately they are very, very few and far between and don't stay in the biz very long. Now where is that ladder so I can get down from this soapbox.
I verify very carefully and sorry however I disagree with your comments. This is a high risk "hobby," and verification is nothing more than assessing the risk factor involved in seeing someone. I have had zero traumatic experiences, all my clientele are wonderful and gentlemen and 90% are repeat clients. Verification is for the clients safety as well as the providers and the people whom I see understand this. However, just like any other profession, it runs the spectrum and there is somebody out there for everyone. That's what makes the world go 'round. Happy Holidays everyone, xoxo, Lilly
This post has caused me to want to make a few of my own observations about perception versus reality in this hobby. I am truly sorry that this situation occurred with this woman, but in reality this happens more often than not.
This brings me to my first observation. The search process and research by a hobbyist can sometimes lead to a false sense of hope and/or assumptions on their end. Gentlemen need to learn to take reviews for what they are- short pieces of fiction (and sometimes bad pieces of fiction to boot).
There is a reason why some very creative individual came up with the acronym YMMV many moons ago.
My second observation would be that graphic reviews lend to this type of behavior which Smitty2 spoke of or worse. Take a look at the various boards and the content of these reviews. Is this kind of lurid detail really necessary?
I know people want to know if a woman is a "GFE", but does anyone ever stop for one moment before they hit the enter button on their "Penthouse Forum" style review and think about the repercussions it may have on a women? All too often they don’t.
Now granted some women want, and welcome these reviews, but when a woman tells you it is ok to write a review it is not always the green light to put her at risk. Is there an answer to prevent women in the future from being hurt and attacked? No, there are creeps everywhere.
As a responsible hobbyist you can do your own part by pausing for a moment before hitting that enter key and holding yourself accountable.
That is a very worthwhile observation. Need " the juicy details" always be quite so, in your word, lurid? On the other hand, a perfectly safe and considerate gentleman may still base his choice of provider on "services offered" which are then confirmed by the review. No easy answers I guess except perhaps the services could be disuseed in a more restrained fashion. that might take a bit more thought and writing skill.