I've been pre-screening lately for an upcoming Las Vegas trip. I also wanted to explore the kinkier side of things while there, and so I contacted a provider through P411 who offers BDSM/fetish sessions. I avoided saying anything explicit in my first e-mail. She responded by telling me she'd love to meet me, and to please explain more about my fantasy. So I sent a reply listing some high-level interests of mine (verbal abuse, ball kicking, strap-on play, teasing & denial). With the exception of verbal abuse, those are all things listed on her website. I never heard back. I sent a follow up e-mail, but no response.
So now I'm confused. I know due to LE concerns not to be too explicit. So what do you say when a provider asks you for details?
And that I LOVE, so that's my lingo mi hombre!
I would suggest you, do your homework & read the TER reviews to see if the provider offers services she lists on her profile. Many providers boast to get a higher score that is undeserving & also, to get more $ fake it until you make it sad, but true.
I would be happy to come play with you in Sin City because I am always looking for a new excuse to come home lol! I also, have an identical twin & we are true freaks of nature!
You did your job. If she doesn't answer you and leaves you confused days later, move on and find a professional that will communicate. If you're beginning your exploration, it's important you have a some comfort level the ability communicate.
The interests you list: verbal abuse, ball busting, s/o, t&d, all seem like popular kinks. There are some states where certain activities are red flags, but if you look at the providers website, you usually get a feel for what to avoid mentioning. There are ways to approach the session while making certain both of you are on the same page but also making certain you ask in manner that is respectful and that she won't take as suspicious.
On occasion, an email randomly gets sent to bulk or she, the provider in Vegas, may have had an emergency come up. Your email didn't seem to hold unreasonable requests. Most providers I know of in Vegas do require a referral from another provider, but I don't see anything unusual in your requests.
If there is still time for you to arrange this session, perhaps try leaving her a voice mail and yet another email as added follow-up. Best of luck!
-Bridget