Thank you for reading and those who help me by answering my questions.
I would love to become a Dominatrix. I have that urge when men tell me they like pain, lol. I don't know how hard to be or what's too soft. What is crossing the line when you talk to them? Are there a lot of men into this type of service? I have always wanted to wear a sexy Dom outfit and whip someone, lol. There is something about having total control over a man that excites me, so here I am. Can anyone point me in the right direction? Thanks in advance!I have seen many Dom's over the years. Start by reading the reviews to get an idea of how things can go. Being a true pain guy I love the sting of a whip, cane or crop, nipples clamped, balls smacked. Some guys can't be marked so the right implement is important. Pegging is something some guys like too. What makes a BDSM experience a good one is Edging. Turning on a guy and keeping him turned on. The easiest way to do that is ask him what he likes regarding BDSM.
Dressing in sexy clothes and being willing to reveal parts of your body if the guy accepts the torture to a level that pleases you is very hot scene. Put together a list of things you'd be willing to do to a guy will also help steer people of similar interests to you. Most of the time the Dom will not touch the guy only allow him to relieve himself if he's pleased the Dom.
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You have to find out how much pain each one will tolerate. It's called finding limits. I think one way is with a safe word or signal. You ramp it up until the give the signal.
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On fetlife I've seen people take really severe punishment. So some really go for that. Others, much less. You just have to figure it out on an individual basis.
I learned in College by watching videos, and reading books. Nina Harley has a great video on Sensual Domination. I cater to mild, wild & hardcore requests, but realize the level of trust needed to be comfortable to preform special requests & skills. Everything takes time to learn, and practice to Master. I used to train Escorts to become Dominant by hosting play parties where I would introduce them to a longtime friend/client at a discounted tribute. I feel anyone who does not know what their doing should not fake it until they make it & charge a high amount. I used to have piss parties it was, so much fun that’s how I introduced my identical twin to this amazing industry. Now, we selectively bless a few good men with the pleasure of our company. I love BDSM because the possibilities are endless. You go as far as your imagination & I am very creative. Lol Smile for me!
Regarding Safe Words I always have two. Yellow tells my Dom to slow it down/decrease intensity. Red means I've had enough of whatever she's doing and to switch to some other form of play/ pain/ pleasure.
When I see a new Dom I find it helpful to go over my expectations, my likes and esp my dislikes, what I'm expecting and my level of experience. Some guys just want to try BDSM and don't like pain or marks while others like me want to endure an intense session to get "take to a sub space" they can only achieve thru intense experiences.
I think the best safe word is 'meatloaf':
I would do anything for love, but I won't do that.
One of the most misunderstood lyrics ever.
I think it is about the control and the surrender more than the pain. I think you would be great at it and should move in that direction. Especially if you ever come north--DC, Philly or thereabouts.