Will be on the receiving end. Total newb here: up to now have only been blindfolded and told not to move during regular sex, so this is new territory. But loved the power exchange and heightened senses of that scene, and I love massages anyway, so this looked like the next step.
Have read the website: http://bondassage.com/about-bondassage/Have read their book "Bondassage: Kinky Erotic Massage Tips for Lovers"
http://bondassage.com/the-book/about-the-book/
Have been through my partner's website.
Have gone over my limits in my head, preparing for the pre-scene discussion with her. But what else should I be doing? Yes, I'm nervous, anxious, excited, and unsettled. So I'm writing about it; it's cathartic.
Then again, I'm a totally freaky kinkster, so bondassage is among the most mild of activities in which I engage when venturing into the non-vanilla world; so maybe I'm the wrong person to provide advice.
Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy the occasional bondassage experience, but contemplating a bondassage date doesn't get me anxious--I just look forward to it.
In general, the point of any activity like this is the power exchange; the surrender of control to your partner and letting her set the pace and the range of activities (within pre-negotiated limits, of course).
I say, just relax and enjoy the blissful surrender.
All you really need to do is eat light day before and day off.
Manscaping never hurts, of course!
You will be taking a shower beforehand, and probably afterwards.
Really, you have nothing to worry about because you will not be in control!
Relax, and enjoy the ride...Bondassage is the best thing since sliced bread for true stimulation and relaxation...IMO...
xoClair
Don't sweat the small stuff!
The bottom line is to always have fun.
No preparation needed love. Just relax, unwind, and enjoy. Surrender your senses, let loose your anxiety and breathe.
-- Modified on 3/20/2015 12:30:35 PM
All the trepidation leading up to it was senseless. It was a thoroughly enjoyable scene, and we've already talked about the next one. Thanks to each of you who replied above; your feedback was very helpful -- kinda like a professional skydiver talking to someone getting on their first trampoline. To you it might be nothing, but to me it was John Glenn setting foot on the moon. And by golly I'm gonna bounce on that moon!
If anyone is on the fence about bondassage for themselves, then hop off that fence and enjoy the reality the two of you can create in such a scene of your own.-- Modified on 3/21/2015 10:41:28 AM
you liked it numpty88. I always tell a client who's never done Bondassage not to worry, they will love it- and they always do!
Thanks for sharin