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LaylaVargo See my TER Reviews 5028 reads
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Hey All,

I am new to the bdsm scene and am very excited to get started. I have been a SW for the past four and a half years and during that time I have become increasingly curious about this world. If anyone knows any good books or have info on courses or just any tips in general on getting started I would truly appreciate it!  
XoXo,
Layla

QueenBia344 reads

To our fun private BDSM community!  I am here to help. When I 1st started I was an Escort for an agency in College & they sent me out as a young blonde, sub.  lol I was no submissive, but was willing to learn at $1k an hour, this was back in 2001.  The first thing you need to know is what are you? (T/B/S) top, bottom, or switch?  

I was born dominant it is in my soul. I knew I was no submissive, but I can play the part & am a switch by nature. I bought books & DVD's to learn the Art of BDSM, then practiced. My most valuable info came from a porn star I loved & admired dearly.... Nina Hartley's Guide to Sensual Domination No. 1  
I would offer intro. specials because I was in training. I wanted to learn how to seduce a man, and be submissive even if I was truly a Domina. I watched my ATF porn star who does lesbian, but was a champ at taking the dick too.  Janine Lindemulder in 2004 did a movie called, "Maneater." I swear this movie changed my life. I love porn & recommend watching lots of porn in all genres.

Make a list of your interests & go from there. The possibilities are endless when it comes to BDSM fun. Be safe, trust is a must, and always care about your partners needs. I am a lifestyle BDSM player. I am also, a PRO.

Related Link: https://www.qb4coaching.com

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AlicinWunderland274 reads

I like your website...!!!

That's all!

~A

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LaylaVargo340 reads

That's a lot of great info thank you!!! I'm gonna do exactly that and make a list like you said. I have always been curious about it and told by many of my clients it's a very noticeable flame inside me and I would do well at being a dom. I'm into being a sub as well definitely but like you, I know I'm more dominant at heart ;-) Again, thank you so much for all the info and tips, stay safe out there! xoxo

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hay5650338 reads

I recommend setting up a profile on Fetlife and joining some of the Female Domination groups where you can ask questions as you progress in your education.

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AlicinWunderland279 reads

Yeah, stick to the groups though...

You will be inundated by dick pics and cam gurls in the General Convo...

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Nomi_Kendall342 reads

Likewise! I've been told many times that I would make a great Dom bc it's my natural demeanor. I just have no idea how to even nurture that side of my personality. I would love to be someone's apprentice :) as I'm more into acting out and hands on learning, compared to watching porn. Any suggestions?

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AlicinWunderland300 reads

IMHO, being a Real Dom is something a man is born with.
I will cooperate with a "Dom in training" in a public scenario (because I am an attention whore!),
but unfortunately, I have very little respect for those who have to be taught. That is in my personal life.

In KinkCulture, I will cooperate with anyone who is "Safe, Sane & Consensual".

Just my two cents.

~A

P.S. I have attended Angie Gunn's "Kink for Trauma" (see my aforementioned post),

pineapplesupport.org/angie-gunn/

And relatively recently, some of Princess Kali's events and appearances in the Boston area. She teaches ProDomme workshops and does one-on-one Life coaching. ALL of her books are an insightful and good read.

The Black Rose Society in DC hosts many educational and social events. Sometimes they make reference to KinkEvents around the nation...
See references in the wiki post...
wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_Rose_(BDSM_organization)

Also, there are many Kink "conventions" held in the summer months. I see some are announcing pre-registration this year. COVID restrictions observed.
Kink Conventions online 2021

eventbrite.com/d/online/kink/

Events listed by Month:
theblackpomegranate.com/fetish-convention-list/

Hope this helps!  And by all means, be a  
P.(ersonally)  
R.(esponsible)  
I.(nformed)  
C.(onsentual)  
K.(ink-ster)!

Related Link: Princess Kali's educational website

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