I've been lucky enough to travel a lot in the last few years... and to live in S.F. which is full of kinky fun- but the reality is that I think there's more kink per capita in NYC, and now I'm convinced about Boston being a town really into BDSM. L.A. is obviously up there
Then there's Europe- Berlin is out of this world.
Have you ever been somewhere that was unexpectedly kinky? Where have you met the most awesome play partners?
Don't know what your looking for but there are many providers in boston that are into kink. If your more submissive yourself there are many doms in the area as well.
How about submissive escorts? Escorts with toys for girls, not for men?
It might not be true 51 weeks of the year, but during Thunder In The Mountains, Denver, Colorado is probably the kinkiest city in the world, based on reports from my friends (many of whom are going). Sort of the San Diego Comic-Con of Kink. We just missed this year's, but now you all know about it for next year!
Based on what the community seems to say, NYC ranks #1 in kink, with San Francisco #2 (known for being very hard players) and possibly L.A. #3 (more sensual) in the USA. I've heard that Atlanta is very kinky, too, but I have no specific info on that.
I too have found that some real kinky playdates have been in my home town. Surprisingly, most of my NYC friends have been quite vanilla.
You can walk a woman down the street on a leash and will barely get a raised eyebrow.