What a great question. it's taking me 15 years to figure out how to organize so much, this is how I Feel.  First off the bat you separate sensual, kinky and Fetish from BDSM, that helps a lot to begin.

kink is more soft core and more provider oriented.  BDSM is definitely more hard-core and more dominatrix related.

Sensual:   Sensual body play with various textures resulting in different feelings and sensations are awesome.  I love this play.  I use furs fabrics feathers my nails hair tongue and food Omg I love to make messes.  

Fetish: fetish is a tricky beast for sure because most of us don't even know what they are little lone where they are. Unless you explore your whole body inside and out you're not gonna know what freaks you out and turns you on to that degree that it's way out of the norm.   This is something you could explore your whole life and if you haven't even tried one little thing you are definitely missing out.  

 You can explore your fetishes for quite a long time. I associated my ruffles from the fact that my mother used to dress me up in ruffles on my anklets and gloves and underwear, on the edges of my collars and sleves and dresses.  I guess she liked ruffles too.  I had ruffles the whole time I was very young. I left them all behind and didn't see them again until my 40s.   Then they came out with a vengeance oh my.   They definitely caught ME a seasoned professional, by surprise. Once you know about your fetishes, you can have a lot of awesome fun playing with them and taking you to new heights and levels, because they're so intense but they're also hard to get rid of. Just like this whole kinky fetish BDSM realm is so hard to walk away from.

Kinky sex is another category that's out of the norm. The basic missionary, cowboy and doggy style I would consider civilian positions. After that you can now move into different Kama Sutra positions.   But when you start talking kinky you can start add all kinds of other types of things. Role-playing probably being at the top of the list. I have found people have unique taste and flavors and kinks and fetishes, my list could go on forever here so I'll let you make your own.  

 We have a couple swing clubs here in Phoenix and many spread out all over the US and other countries as well. You can explore kinky sex with multiple partners and different genders as well as voyeurism and exhibitionism and so much more. With others who support your needs and desires Openly.  I find when I need to go knock out a few kinky nuts, the swing clubs are perfect. I just go and pick out all of those people that will give me what I need and we'll go into one room and then they give me what I need. And single ladies are free in the swing clubs.  there's always condom and safe sex everywhere. Single bi females are very much a commodity... get out and have fun ladies, explore your sexual side. especially after the kids are gone.  you got the freedom to do whatever you want and you got the power, just go for it.  The man love it when you do. they beg for it. they wish they could ask you but they can't.  most won't. so ladies, you got to get up And go do it yourselves, I did and what a ride it's been...enlightening.  

Single bi females can do just about anything in this realm, bring in the power babies.  

 Goddesses have this realm.   They are masters of kinky, fetish, Karma Sutra sex and yes LOVE.  

BDSM:   This is your Hardcore realm and best left to professionals in the beginning. We have here at TER  and several dungeons and organizations Like apex and fetlife and places to explore this realm safely and depending on the professional course.  Be choosy to find someone perfect for you and your needs,  there are many out there.

Bondage and discipline and sadomasochism are stepping into another room where there's a fine line line between pain and pleasure and then there's basically abuse.   From the counseling point of view. some people who have been abused  can associate abuse with love still and it takes a lot of work to get through it all. Who are we to judge what other people have gone through and the weights that have been left behind.  who are we to judge how people seek their healing. We can either judge or we can try to help heal them. In their own unique and special ways which takes a lot of understanding and which most people have no clue about this. I have found I see two different types of people playing, those who have been abused and those who have not and are exploring.imho.

We find of a lot  of Alpha people playing in this realm, because they spend all day making major decisions with major responsibility and stress and they like to take it all off and be submissive and have someone else do the dominating demanding and stressful decision making.  
 
So you find Alphas as submissive and others too of course which opens the next door. You have dominants and you have submissives and you have switches, which they go both ways.

Ultimately it's about power exchange. Which you can research if you desire more knowledge. I just saw this post and had to say something, since I haven't seen a post like this in a while and I just got back into Apex and the dungeons myself. I thought I could leave it behind and I tried to  for about a decade but I just can't. I played in, mastered and even charged for all realms and wear many hats and many titles.....GODDESS LOVE Is my favorite.   When the first time I played with someone again last week it all came rushing back. None of it ever goes away. So I just thought I'd say something to all of you out there......I'm BACK!!!  

So LadyCazzKaria I'm here for you sister.  I'll be at apex nye party tonight if you'd like to join us or if you'd like to contact me you may.  Just ask for Mistress Cane, Empress EnslaveMe or Goddess Love.

When I started this  15 years ago I decided that my providing should stay on one side and website and the BDSM should stay on another side, so I have two different websites and post my BDSM stuff elsewhere, because there's so much out there. I keep all my providing here on exclusively on TER,  because it's the BEST and has been for almost 20 years!!!

It's very complicated to put in a post that you do 20 different type of things especially when you're just trying to be soft and sexy. And then you say that you also like to beat peoples asses too.   It doesn't quite come across the way you're trying to make it sound, nobody quite understands.  So I found it was easier to be organized and keep things separate and yet still live a full complete life, just be organized. My motto is: honesty is the best policy...in my humble opinion.  

 OK this subject is never a simple little subject. I could go on for hours and I've already probably said too much like normal. So I just like to end by saying I am open for advice, education, health or healing if you should need so. Just email me at [email protected].  I hope this helps Evan a little, that is all I'm trying to accomplish here.

 We need a lot more education in this realm and I would like to be one to step up and start trying and offer my help with my vast experience. good luck out there, be careful and play safe and like I always say: there's always somebody special just for you...go find em.

May your next new year be a happy, healthy and kinky new year everyone!!!

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