so I have been reading quite a few of threads and still trying to figure out what I am into. Who Can I talk to about my fantasies ? Femdom experiences sounds exciting but is that a part of a bdsm category? Hopefully someone can lead me to the right path

If you post this on your local board, then some local ladies can answer any questions.

I strongly suggest you join Fetlife.  You can probably find out just about anything that is kinky there.

Female domination is a part of BDSM, of course.

If you want to talk about it, Fetlife is your best resource. If you want to experience it, then it is a question of whether you want a relationship or just the experience. Women aren't going to get involved with you unless there is something in it for them. Male dominants and male submissives are a dime a dozen in BDSM so you'll have to offer up something worthwhile to any of them

Based on being on FET for a while, good male dominants and good male subs are at least a quarter a dozen. You'd be surprised at the number of women feeling frustration in their searches, almost as much as the men. When you want quality and don't want to settle, it takes patience for everybody.

The definition of "good" dominant or submissive partner is wildly subjective and on Fet, often a romanticized impossible notion that couldn't possibly exist in a mentally healthy person.

Let me know if you ever want to live out your fantasies....xoxo!

Femdom is a wonderful facet of BDSM that is so much fun to explore. It can vary from very vicious and intense to very tender and sensual, depending on what flavor you and your partner enjoy.  

It also happens to be one of my favorite ways to play! If you're ever in NYC, feel free to book me and we can explore together.

FemDomme can most certainly be about mental and emotional control...no bondage or whip needed.  

Consider this scenario between Mistress and sub: "sub, when you get to your office at work, take your pants down and send me a selfie of the panties I told you to wear, and your cock better be hard."

BDSM involved? None

FemDomme: YES! Mental and emotional control

open minded, sounds like you know what you don't want. that's 2 stars right there, asking for play time and have a session is the next 2 stars

I'd like to break down the letters in BDSM and mention the hidden two in there that some people miss...  

We have the BD for Bondage and Discipline...  
We have the SM for Sadism and Masochism...  

But... did you know that there is also a DS in the middle that stands for Dominance and Submission?  

I think you'll find that encompasses the mental and emotional control you are talking about. Neat, right?